Abortion is Selfish and Should Be Banned

Though I really am pro-choice

Jul 3 · 5 min read

I know that sounds ridiculous. I can hear you raging from here. Is she for real? Is she out of her fucking mind? Did she really just say that?

Yes, I’m for real.

No, I’m not out of my fucking mind, and

Yes, I just said that and here’s why…

My story

I was 40 years old. My son was 14. I was single and dating. I was having unprotected sex. I was also not on any form of birth control. I was, at the time, dating one man in particular whom I had known since I was 18.

We had sex. He planted a seed. 11 weeks later I was sitting in a waiting room at the hospital with 20 or so young girls, waiting to have an abortion.

It was the most selfish thing I have ever done in my life. Aborted a child. There were a few reasons why I didn’t want to have this baby:

  • I already had one and didn’t want another one
  • I was too old (in my opinion) to start raising a baby
  • I had other plans in my life and having another child wasn’t one of them

Yup. Looks pretty selfish to me.

I’m not a stupid woman. I know that when you have unprotected sex one of 2 things can happen.

  1. you get an STD, or
  2. you get pregnant.

It’s not rocket science. I took the risk. It was stupid and selfish. I never thought in a million years that I would get pregnant nor did I think of what I would do if it happened. Not at the time anyway.

Having an abortion, ever in my life, wasn’t anything that I ever gave any thought to, until I had one. As I sat in the waiting room I couldn’t help to think that I was killing an unborn child because I was too stupid to use a condom or birth control (or both!).

But not only that, what was so wrong with me that I couldn’t just go ahead with the pregnancy anyway and then just give the baby up for adoption if I really didn’t want one?

Really. Why couldn’t I? Here are some mind blowing stats for you:

Some sources estimate that there are about 2 million couples currently waiting to adopt in the United States — which means there are as many as 36 waiting families for every one child who is placed for adoption.

and these:

The time frame, like the cost, varies with the type of child being adopted. With a completed home-study in hand, the process to adopt a child with special needs can often proceed quickly and be completed within a few months. The wait is typically between two and seven years for a healthy infant.

And then there are selfish people like me who ‘don’t feel like having a baby’ and have unprotected sex and wind up aborting one.

I’m honestly ashamed. I could have prevented the whole thing and just had safe sex but I didn’t.

There it is. Safe sex.

Why aren’t more people having safe sex?

We already know what happens when you don’t have safe sex. STD or pregnancy, or neither obviously but you could still end up with one of the two.

“But I was on the pill and I got pregnant anyway!!” some may say.

Did you know the pill is 99.7% effective. That’s pretty good but what about that .03%. Do you not think you could be in that low percentile? Why not use a condom too?

“Condoms are so uncomfortable. I hate having sex with a condom.” some may say.

You know what’s really fucking uncomfortable? Having an abortion. You don’t forget that feeling for as long as you live. It stays with you. Forever.

Did you know there are quite a few different forms of birth control? I know, shocker.

And then of course there’s always the one that got away. I get that that happens. No matter what form of birth control was used, a seed got planted and sprouted.

Go back and check the adoption stats again.

Maybe you don’t want a baby but there are millions of people who are desperately trying to have a baby that might want yours.

The argument

It’s a choice and it’s my body.

Yup. You’re right. On both accounts. And though this may even sound a tad contradictory, I agree with you. It is your choice and it is your body. I believe the woman should have the right to do what she wants with her body and this unwelcome child.

I truly do….but

If you’re carelessly having unprotected sex and end up getting pregnant, I don’t think an abortion should be granted to you. You know the consequences. You’re not stupid.

If we commit a crime and get caught, we pay the price. No?

Another argument is going through with the pregnancy would be extremely high risk to the woman (she may have severe complications and risk her life) and an abortion is the better option. I totally agree with that.

And then there’s this

And then there are those who have been raped or molested by family members/neighbours/priests (ugh), etc and got pregnant and yes, I believe a pregnancy under those horrific conditions should be terminated.

But I just can’t wrap my head around people like me, who have unprotected sex, knowing full well what the outcome of that might possibly be, who are granted abortions.

Go check those adoption stats again.

I don’t think we should be allowed to have one and they should be banned for selfish stupid people, like me. You can start throwing your rotten tomatoes at me now, idrgaf.

We produced a life recklessly and we are nonchalantly ending it. Don’t murderers go to jail?

Your opinion counts

Honest it does. I really do want to know how you feel about this. I mean let’s face it, this is a super controversial topic at the moment, no? I was just as appalled as you when I heard that the state of Alabama was banning all abortions that includes rape and incest. I shudder.

That’s absolutely ridiculous.

I am pro choice. I really am.

I just don’t agree with people taking advantage of the fact that if they ‘accidentally’ got pregnant they could just as easily go and abort it, while there are so many families waiting to adopt. That just makes me sad.

What’s your take on this? While I’d love to hear what you think, I’m not so open to any name calling or bashing. Please refrain ❤ We are all entitled to our opinions and our points of view without being mean or hateful.

Peace and Love

xo iva xo

Iva Ursano

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