On The Cycle of Heartaches, Finding Love and Chasing Love

This man was kind and listened to me, without ever mentioning the one thing that all men seem to be after. This man he loved my mind and adored me but somehow I could never find it in myself to want him back. I look at the people I’ve dated and ‘loved’ and understand why they never loved me as much as I did them. Sometimes people will never love you no matter how much you try, it is okay to give up and move on because you’ve had enough.

It’s hard finding someone who loves you the way you love them, but it doesn’t mean it won’t happen. So stop, stop being so desperate, chasing after people who wouldn’t so much as turn their head if you’re bleeding from the inside out. There’s much more to your life than to try to make someone love you, because it won’t work. Chances are they’ll fall in love with someone else who’s paid them the least bit of attention.

People are strange and unrequited love can be addicting. People find that they fall for the ones who either don’t know they exist or only see them as a friend. So stop chasing that person, it’s not healthy, sure it gives you a strange pleasure, adds some dramas to your life but it will tear you down and make you weak.

Stop romanticising the situation or the person. Don’t let anyone run you around, don’t let someone have the power to control you like that, to pick up the phone at 3AM in the morning and dial them, then hang up quickly because you’re afraid of looking weak, to go out of your way to bump into them because they haven’t replied to your message from three days ago. Don’t excuse every shitty excuse, every shitty thing they do because they’re too scared to tell you directly that they’re not interested. Look at things exactly how they are, listen to your brutally honest friend who can provide two sides to things.

Be real, get out of bed, get over them.