well, i understand how such words could be a bit upsetting…i understand why you would use that tone of voice with your hubby…you have already established a connection, you know where your power lies within that boundary..you already know when you act a certain way, he responds in kind. but when women in the workplace are in the company of men, there is a power differential, meaning because we have”scripts” a way of acting around certain social situations, women need to change the dynamic…

men in the workplace usually won’t know you as well as you hubby does…

all i ask is for you to observe how you are treated in such a manner that challenges your intellect in regards to your gender…ask yourself would this person treat me this way or say such things if i were a man? if, by your interaction with this person has caused your body language to change, to question your belief in yourself , then there has been a power shift…you have become a player in an unequal playing field, where now you are on the defensive..if you could just be like Diamond from the American Gladiators people wouldn’t think that you all are cowering, pants-shitting non-leaders…

these are words that have expressed how you feel…”they” want YOUR behavior to change, and insist that “theirs” should not…

you should not have to be Diamond…you have EVERY RIGHT to be ABBIE…don’t you think so? I do…