Let me explain..
Conscious awareness and your ability to alter your behavior is how we channel God into our lives. To have conscious awareness you need to be able to create space in between your physiological reaction to external stimuli and your chosen response to your environment.
The trick to creating this space is in your capability of slowing down and choosing the behavior you actually want to exhibit. This space is created from willpower — or whatever hormones like serotonin and dopamine reserves that we attribute to “Willpower”.
Those hormones, or willpower, are increased by delaying instant gratification, or short term dopamine triggering activities, for a larger goal in the future. No ability to delay gratification, no ability to alter behavior. No ability to alter behavior, no ability to love long term.
Love is a conscious decision — It’s many little choices made every day to treat someone or something with compassion, kindness, and patience.. and if you can’t choose love because you can’t create space between external stimuli and your reaction, your capacity for love is limited.
So, your ability to adjust your love to your partners growth is hindered. The compatibility you felt when you first met will fade as one of you continues to spiritually develop and the other can’t.
Trust God, maximize your willpower, and choose to love in every-single-moment.
Love,
JP
