Why Women Test You

How To Be Successful With Girls

Jackson Nexhip
Jul 10, 2017 · 3 min read

A common complaint I hear from guys (and that I’ve been guilty of in the past) is how females seem to irrationally test them. “They get emotional for no reason and start fights over nothing!”

Is it true? And if so why?

Well I think it’s part true, but also part projection.

I think part projection because men and women are wired differently and have different temperaments. They see the world differently, and what a male sees as irrational I don’t think is always necessarily irrational to a female.

But with that said, I also think that women (consciously or unconsciously) are also genetically predisposed to test their man. Why?

Since the beginning of humanity, women have been cursed with dependency on their man during the early stages of raising children. Human infants with their big ass brains have an incredibly long developmental period in which they are utterly dependent on their mother. Looking after a child that could die at any moment (predation, sickness etc) is an incredibly demanding task, and it leaves the mother vulnerable.

There are a million things that could kill that baby — especially back in the time of our ancient ancestors, the mother needed to be constantly on the watch for predators (such as snakes) who fucking love small vulnerable children. This baby is so dependent on its mother for survival that she’s now at risk herself.

When she has that child she’s going to be stressed, exhausted, vulnerable and moody — and she needs somebody to protect her. That’s why she tests you. What use are you for her when she has the infant if you’re just a whiny little bitch that gets all resentful and butt hurt over a bit of conflict?

She needs to know that you’re emotionally stable, and capable of being strong and grounded when she’s at her worst. If you can’t handle a bit of conflict now, what use will you be when she’s at her worst with the life of her child on the line?

So what does this mean for you as a man? Instead of demonizing her chaotic and whimsical nature, you realize that it’s who she is and you embrace it. She’s relying on you to be unshakeable in the face of her wild rages — not in the sense that you’re cold and emotionless, but in the sense that she knows that you’ll be there, and that you’ll be grounded and understanding.

It’s counterintuitive I think because most men try to stamp out the raging fire of the feminine spirit and try to make their girlfriends/wives more like men, only to find that it makes it far, far worse for them both. But what fun is that anyway? When you take the opposite approach and embrace her wild emotional nature, she can finally relax.


All of my writing revolves around the question of what it takes to live the most fulfilling life possible, and so far the answer seems to be a combination of freedom, creativity, and busting your ass on behalf of the good for your community.

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