Find what you love and never look back.
Since most of my 20s were about finding my purpose and job, and growing up and becoming something in life. Thought this would be a great thought for post #2. As there will be a couple of posts dedicated to side points I will mention in here, Ill try to stay on topic as much as I can.
I am the guy that went to college not knowing what I really wanted to do. I didn’t have a passion growing up like most do a desire for medical, law, business, art, or engineering. I would say I was mostly business and engineering in that list but really didn’t have a strong passion to learn more in either case. I think I would pick those just based off of genetics.
Truly finding what you love to do is part passion and part dedicating every moment you can to getting as good as you can get at it. I heard someone mention one time that you have 21–24 working days in a month. 7–8 of those days will be ones where you are on fire and loving what you do no matter what, 7–8 of those days will also be hard days where either circumstance or energy make it hard to want to keep doing what you are doing. Its the 7–8 where you can capitalize and really do something awesome. The thing for me with that scenario is, why cant you find something that makes all 21–24 maximized. I still agree that you have bad days every month, but I feel like even in those bad days at the end I still love what I do.
Im not going to get into the story of my lightbulb moment and other details, but if you want to read about it then here it is. More important is the why and how I got to that point. I was at a point where I felt like I was working just to work, “for the weekend”, “for a paycheck”, like I was constantly having to prove myself, and in reality I didn’t have a defined skill. And anything I looked into was basically pointing me to Grad School (future post coming on this subject). Luckily I had someone convince me to keep working for them and not go that route. In that next two years had an opportunity to try something new, ended up being really good at it, constantly read and tinkered in my off-time with it to the point where I got frustrated with not growing fast enough. This was the lightbulb moment I guess. Where I loved it enough to want to quit my job, move across the country and learn as fast and as much as possible.
To that point though its not easy getting to that point with our generation, where we change the course 5 years after we think we should be. Where you have that feeling of being behind all your friends or that you have taken multiple steps back in life (when you really haven’t) and you doubt if it will ever work out. I was there but I also understood I would never be truly happy in the current situation and that pushed me just the right amount. I went for it.
Once you go in that direction, you have to go after it hard and with even more passion or you will end up right back where you were. I could say something cliché here like “do what you love and money takes care of itself” or “find what you love and you will never work a day in your life”. Both are true but you still have to protect yourself and demand your value. But I will say the days become more enjoyable and you go from feeling like you have to prove yourself to nothing is impossible. You go from looking forward to 5, to looking forward to whenever you get to the office. You go from someone people don’t enjoy being around at work to someone they do.
Lastly don’t run after someone else’s dream. We are all wired differently and created differently and just because it looks great or looks happy doesn’t mean you will be happy in it. Go after what fuels you and what you love doing to change the world.
(These are not coherent thoughts, I KNOW, but hopefully they will somehow make sense as you read this. This is not an attempt at a pulitzer but more an attempt to share my journey of finding something I love enough to do as much as I can.)