10 Things You Know But Life Reminds You Anyway
1. The World Doesn’t Owe You Anything.
Your good deeds will never add up enough to earn you brownie points in order to redeem “Get out of jail free” cards to put towards your mistakes. Don’t complain when life isn’t going your way, even when you think it should. Take life as it comes. Take the good with the bad.
2. Having Unreasonable Expectations For Love Will Leave You Disappointed.
Love is about new experiences. It opens your mind, showing you new things you didn’t know about yourself or another. Love is an unpredictable guide that takes you on a discovery of life in a different light, kindly with the comfort of having someone by your side. When you’re constantly expecting and demanding things, you miss out on the beautiful journey that it is you’re on. Love is not an application or check list. You’ll find that you can’t build someone with the traits you want your dream significant other to have and no one can fit the mold you’ve created. And Yes, that is a good thing.
3. Communication Is Key.
People aren’t mind readers. If you’re mad at someone, let them know. If you’re hurt, tell them why. Don’t just assume that they have to know, because odds are they don’t. This goes for friendships, relationships, work situations. Anything that involves human contact really. You only hurt yourself by harboring your feelings. So save yourself and everyone around you the trouble of coming down with a bad case of erupting emotions syndrome, and just talk about it. Whatever it is.
4. Tell The Truth. Always.
Honesty will always be the best policy. No matter who it’s to or what it’s about. Sure, you’re doing it out of love maybe your trying to protect them; But just because you have good intentions doesn’t mean that’ll bring better outcomes. Rip the bandaid off. You can’t deny someone the right of honesty just because sometimes the truth is a tough pill to swallow. They may deserve more than what the truth offers; but they deserve your candor first.
“Honesty doesn’t always pay, but dishonesty always costs.” -Michael Josephson
5. Temporary Is The Only Permanent.
In the least pessimistic way of wording it; nothing lasts forever. Everything is temporary, and that is the only constant in life. The sadness you feel, the loneliness you endure from time to time, even the happiness you cross paths with is only momentarily. It’s a blessing and a curse. There will be times where your world gets turned upside down, without any warning or reason and you won’t be ready for it. Frustrating as it may be. This helps you avoid too much consistency so you don’t later have to escape the deep life sucking pit that is stagnancy. This is how change is presented, this is how you grow.
6. No Business Will Ever Be More Important Than Minding Your Own.
We’ve all found ourselves lost in those moments of weakness where we can’t help it but be inquisitive about something someone else is doing. From time to time we get ourselves caught up in situations that don’t involve us. Dying to get any juicy details we can dig simply because we want to be in-the-know, but that will never be a justifiable reason for nosy tendencies. If you’re informed on something that doesn’t involve you, put it in a box, lock it up, and forget about it. The only thing that your meddling will be digging up is trouble. No can of worms will be worth it. They were on to something when they said, Curiosity Killed The Cat. Just Saying.
“You would be very surprised with how much positive changes that you could make in your life, if you could make it your top priority to mind your own business.” ― Edmond Mbiaka
7. Taking Things With A Grain Of Salt Will Save Your Sanity.
If it doesn’t sound right, it might not be. Consider advice lightly, don’t ignore that feeling of leeriness or hesitation you might get. Not everyone’s facts are as valid as they claim. Take the things you are told and listen to with caution. It’s better to be skeptical than sorry, right?
8. Don’t Fall In Love With Someone’s Potential.
Sometimes we see people in a different light. We see what they’re capable of and the potential they hold. For whatever reason our eye has caught something not everyone else’s has, so when we are exposed to the fake persona they claim as their identity we know better than to believe it. We call their bluff and fight for who they could be. Investing time and energy in them because maybe— just maybe — they will one day live up to that potential. Only that day doesn’t come, instead the truth does. The truth is, you are who you want to be. If they wanted to live up to their potential, they would have. Waiting around will not make them realize anything more than what they already know. The fact is with people like this, the facade they put on will always mean more to them than the potential they harbor.
9. Forgive Everyone, Even Yourself.
Sometimes people leave with no explanation. Sometimes they do us wrong, betray our trust and take advantage of our kindness. Not only do we feel hurt but also disappointed, a little in them and some in ourselves too. After all how did we not see this coming? It might be the other persons fault for hurting us but we feel at fault for allowing ourselves to fall into their trap. Accept that apology from them that you’ll never receive. Forgive them when they don’t ask for it, forgive yourself even when you think you don’t deserve it. You’ll find that often forgiveness is not for the other person, it’s for you.
10. You Are Entitled To Nothing.
You don’t have a right to anything without putting work in. It doesn’t matter who you are, who you know, how much money you have or where you come from. What you want will never fall into your lap. If you want something, you have to work for it. If you think you’ve earned something, prove it. If you see something you want, take it. Make it yours and leave no room for arguments, questioning or second guessing.
“Success is never owned, it’s rented and the rent is everyday” -Unknown