That was a great metaphor. I’m a trans man who has been married to a lesbian for 22 years, the last 2 during my transition. It has been bumpy. Not the first week (shock, maybe?), then her volcano of panic erupted which took a few months to calm down. Now things are smoother, but different. Things will always be different. But, one thing I’ve learned from all these years of marriage is that things don’t stay the same in marriage. Illness happens, job loss, catastrophe. If the motivation to adapt is strong enough, the marriage will survive.