Last Night I Went Dancing With My Favorite Queens

Definition of “Queen” according to Urban Dictionary:
 A homosexual, usually male, always FABULOUS.

“So we danced in direct defiance of our fears.”

Last night I went out dancing with a bunch of my favorite queens. Since I can remember many of my friends and I were active in the LGBT community. I taught LGBT inclusivity for Teach For America teachers. I have dedicated my time and energy towards creating healthier, safer, more empathetic cultures for all people. I built Revolar to reimagine safety because it’s my personal belief that freedom means no fear. Freedom means feeling you have a safe space to be yourself, find yourself, enjoy your life. Revolar was inspired by survivors of sexual assault, violence, inspired by my sister and many of my friends.

Last night I went out dancing with a bunch of my favorite queens. This is a regular occurrence for me. These are my best friends and this is the place we frequently dance and enjoy celebrating life together. This is where we feel safe to be ourselves. This is where I always felt safe cutting loose and fully expressing myself on the dance floor without fear of possibly being drugged and raped. This is where I felt safe that no one would grab me without consent on the dance floor. This is where I felt safe to celebrate life with my friends. In other places I’m always on alert, more cautious, and inhibited.

Last night I went out dancing with a bunch of my favorite queens. This time I remembered Pulse and all the hate crimes I’ve seen spike post election results. This was our safe space.

Last night I went out dancing with a bunch of my favorite queens. This time they patted us down for our safety and because I think they are afraid too. This time I looked around the room at some of the beautiful members of my community, the community that has always accepted me with open arms, and I was afraid for them and for myself. We all felt it. My friend said, “I feel better knowing there’s extra security.” My heart broke all over again. So we danced in direct defiance of our fears.

Last night I went out dancing with a bunch of my favorite queens. This time will not be the last time I go dancing with my favorite queens. This time we hugged each other extra tight. I will continue advocating for our collective human right to feel safe in our own country, in our own person.