Whoa lady! You went way too deep in your feelings and over analyzed this. This subject is subjective. And Erykah is one person. You seem to give her more power with this ramble than she really has. The way we are raised has a lot to do with this. My parents taught us to respect ourselves, but they taught us freedom and self worth. Not all of us women have men in mind when we dress ourselves. I don’t even consider it once. I know right from wrong and I believe that men do too. I feel no pressure to do/say/be … anything but what makes me happy and content. I think you went overboard on this, because of how you were made to feel. This is not every woman’s reality.