You know, my 22-year-old sister is going through something similar regarding what she wants to do in life. And you’re 100% right: People think it is a competition. I am not above feeling that way myself.
But honestly, I consider myself extremely lucky that I knew what I wanted out of life. I’m so so grateful. Because others spend years, decades, lifetimes trying to find out their path/purpose/meaning. And it’s difficult to experiment with all of the external pressure to make good money and elevate with the rest of them.
We’re all beings who have unique perspectives, upbringings, and life stories. I found my passion, I created my own writing business, and I know with certainty that I’ll be published in the future. My sister — and potentially your daughter — haven’t tested enough things yet to finally peg down that elusive “thing.” So long as they keep trying, that’s all that can be done.
The day they give up is the day they start to die.
So good on you, Lorna, for telling your daughter not to worry. Because life isn’t about worrying about the future. It’s about seeing the present for what it is, being grateful for the opportunities that present themselves, and going into those opportunities with full conviction and maximum effort. If it fails, that’s fine. Onto the next one, with a tremendous life lesson to show for it.
Thank you for this comment. It really opened up a narrative in me. I think you’ve jostled something inside that makes me want to start writing on this platform again. For that — again — I am truly grateful.