Your Looking-Glass Self

Why you should give up the need for validation

Jakob Ryce
Jun 20, 2018 · 8 min read
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Loneliness, guilt, anger, acceptance, fear of failure, fear of rejection … all these emotions play an integral part in the quagmire of validation.

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“I am not what I think I am and I am not what you think I am; I am what I think that you think I am.”

How to ditch the need for external validation

“You can rewire your brain and create new ways of thinking by recognizing and accepting that we have all been socialized to value ourselves through the eyes of other people.” — Thornton.

“The value of a human life is that it exists. You are a person who is trying to live, and that makes you as worthwhile as every other person …” — McKay, Fanning.

“You can change it anytime you want, it’s only a choice … between fear and love. “ — Bill Hicks.

Jakob Ryce

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Writer and wayfarer of a digital age. I write articles concerning writing, self, society and well-being. @JakobRyce | www.jakobryce.com | jakobryce@gmail.com

Jakob Ryce

Written by

Writer and wayfarer of a digital age. I write articles concerning writing, self, society and well-being. @JakobRyce | www.jakobryce.com | jakobryce@gmail.com

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