
Lastly, if the narcissist was capable of feeling the empathy that you want to extract from him, he wouldn’t have dehumanized you repeatedly. Have you considered that the emotion you’re attempting to elicit from the narcissist is at best just not there, and at worst only manufactured to manipulate you all over again?
The trouble with cyclically attracting damaged partners is that no matter how loving, how available, how sweet you are to them, the healing journey is one that ultimately comes from within. The desire to change, quit drinking, stop cheating, be a better person needs to be intrinsically motivated. No matter how much love you have to give, know that you cannot make someone better, you cannot make them change.
… this article) would be helpful to anyone who loves too much, but it is primarily written for women because loving too much is typically a woman phenomenon. Men’s childhood trauma will usually evolve to other addictions and obsessions revolving around accomplishments and ego rather than this sort of addictive behavior in relationships. As I move forward, I’ll be speaking mostly in her / him terms, as the her as the love addicted par…