The Broken World of Men and Women

Men and women are different, but each needs the other. This doesn’t mean one sex is superior to the other — true partnership would recognize that strengths and weakness of both. That is not happening today. I believe that the ability of men and women to communicate has been hijacked by popular culture, the media and the daily stress of our lives. This generates conflict and isolates one from the other. A Return to a male dominated patriarchy is not an option — it never allowed women to realize their full potential. Its replacement — matriarchy doesn’t seem like a great option either. Men and women need to rescue each other so that we can create a better world for the next generation. We need to understand that we are interdependent. What would a real partnership between the two sexes actually look like? I have no idea, but it is something that I think about frequently.

I am a 48 years old. I work hard, watch TV, hunt and fish with my kids, drive a truck, wear a tie, go to art galleries, relax in the outdoors, cook, clean, wear a cowboy hat, love country music, hip hop, classical, opera and the blues. I also enjoy yoga, eat organic food and bike commuting. I know what a fish fork and finger bowl are for. I can tie a bow and I change diapers. I have a diverse set of friends living all over the world. I have lived outside of the United States in Asia and South America. I’ve made a good amount of money and gone a few days without food. What is my religion? That is a complicated question. I have been lucky to fall in love and be loved by some very strong and intelligent women.

What do I believe? The answer depends on the question, but I do have a few bottom lines.

If you want to know what a man feels about something ask me a question. I am not going to give you advice about your relationship. The last thing the world needs is another man lecturing women on how to behave in a relationship. I can offer you an honest prospective on an issue that is bothering you. I’ll tell you how I feel about it, not how to navigate it with your partner.

Send your questions to and I will do my best to answer them. I will not give out your name but publish the answers to this blog.

Thanks for reading.


PS. I will always tell you the truth from my perspective. Telling the truth means be honest with the fact that James is not my real name. I live in a small town and really don’t need the extra exposure so I am using a pen name. I will cloak some details of personal examples, but nothing is going to be made up. In the future, I may reveal my real identity but right now I can’t.