5 Rules for Living

The last few weeks have been filled with opportunity to reflect on work, on life on what is important.

Here are five things that you should do in every area of your life.

1. Look after yourself

No matter how hard you try, no matter what you do, if you don’t look after yourself you can’t look after others. Get some exercise, plenty of sleep and keep some money at the end of every month, whatever sacrifices you have to make now are worth it in the future.

2. Be grateful more than you are sad

You will lose things in your life, you will lose people and you will have to give up your favourite experiences, people, places and objects. In the end, you can’t take any of them with you. You must find a way to be grateful for all the things that you do have or that you have had. Missing things or people or places is a blessing, because you experienced them, you had them to miss. That they are gone is a way of remembering, not mourning. Celebrate everything there is to celebrate about your life.

3. Delegate anger

A too often quoted story of Marcus Aurelius tells that he delegated the whipping of a slave to another person because he was too angry to do it justly. Don’t be vengeful, you will always regret it in the future. Opening wounds never creates resolutions.

4. Can and can’t are questions of priority

I have often thought that affordability or lack of time, are really a question of priorities. I still do, but in fact, I go further. If you have decided to do something (and I mean decided, which is to make an irrevocable and non-negotiable choice) then can and can’t simply don’t exist. If you take into account your current income, the potential obstacles and other factors in making your decision, then it is not your priority and you will never be able to do whatever the seemingly impossible thing is.

5. If you are a victim you blame others

My father died a few weeks ago. He was the noblest spirit I knew. He was lonely and sad at the end, he never said a bad word about anyone. He was an inspiration. Too many of us blame the people around us, make ourselves into victims. Don’t make yourself into a victim. You are only a victim if you do not take responsibility for your actions or your reactions. Both are in your gift and your gift alone.

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Originally published at engollan.com on December 4, 2015. I am currently building a project at ShareCapp.com. I’d love to know your thoughts.