Headbanging as demonstrated by the band “Asphyx”. Image available CC 3.0 from Wikipedia.
Headbanging as demonstrated by the band “Asphyx”. Image available CC 3.0 from Wikipedia.

Content warning: topics include suicide and depression.

People don’t often believe me when I say that metal music saved my life. Some combination of derision and eye-rolling tend to accompany either empty platitudes of inherent “toughness” or “resiliency”. It’s futile to try and explain surviving emotional adversity to someone who’s either never experienced it or reckoned with it.

Let’s try to fix that, shall we? Let’s set the proverbial stage and see if we can get there together.

You’re a prepubescent male in a time where school hasn’t caught-up to the lived experiences of neurodiverse individuals and youth suffering from a combination of post-traumatic stress disorder and depression. You’re exceptionally unpopular with your “peers” in your age- and grade-cohort. Teachers call you “difficult” and “disruptive” both to your face and to your parents. Parents tend to leave you to your own devices — they’re too busy trying to make a living and process their own traumatic experiences to help you get a handle on yours. You get sucked into video games because you’ve been cast out from everything else. …


To say that walled gardens are inescapable is simultaneously truthful and disingenuous — you can escape the FAANG (Facebook, Apple, Amazon, Netflix, Google) if you have a little ingenuity, a little imagination, and some time on your hands.

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Part 1: The “Why”

If you’re reading this, it’s very likely you have at least some idea as to what someone means when they use the phrases “metadata”, “Cambridge Analytica”, “Five Eyes”, and “Mass Surveillance”. The associations, connotations, related politics, and nuances should be fairly evident for everyone else, but for those that need a refresher:

The last decade-plus of news relating to leaks, breaches, and misuse of personal data by companies included under the FAANG banner (and many adjacent ones) are well-documented and easily understood. Their impacts are far-reaching and the depth of that same impact is still being ascertained (if not actively exploited by hostile independent and nation-state actors). Data breaches, disclosures of personally-identifiable information (PII) and Patient Health Information (PHI), monetization of “anonymized” personal data (such as search histories, browsing habits, purchase histories, etc.) …


I can’t tell you when it started; only that it’s always been a part of my life. Implicit and explicit reminders that capital-m Manliness has always been, and shall forever be, the purview of Manly Men who refuse to engage in that “touchy-feely bullshit”, as some of my former friends used to see it.

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Don’t get too close. Don’t touch. Don’t hug. Don’t be weak (or at least don’t let your weakness be seen in public). Don’t engage feelings. Don’t be vulnerable. So much proscription — and for what?

Two decades of isolation, rejection, emotional pain, and self-directed hatred apparently. Something that even a decade-plus of therapy couldn’t resolve with any real level of decisiveness. Two decades spent in isolation from other men. Two decades spent denying, burying, burning-down, and rejecting the full spectrum of my own lived experience and the fullness of the life that was trying to be seen and valued. Two decades spent in isolation, rejection, and patient rage waiting for the opportunity to “escape” and start living a glossier, happier life exemplified and objectified on screens, in books, and in magazines. Two decades waiting for depression, post-traumatic stress, and despair to go on permanent holiday and for joy and peace to come rushing in to fill the void (or at least an absence of pain). …


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This is a time of reckoning. A time for bold leadership from below, radical inclusion, and boundless empathy. It’s a time to stand-up, take stock, and shake it off. Large swathes of the world lie in flames and ruin. Allies rightly question your sanity and resolve. Opponents, both violent and non, question your will to survive and your depth of faith in this Grandest of experiments: democracy.

You stand at a crossroads. The long-ballyhooed “Third Way” was a bushwhack and a boondoggle the likes of which will haunt the party for generations to come. Supposed “moderates” continue their cries of “Center! Center!” …


It’s not as if we haven’t seen this movie before. The Big Short, Wolf of Wall Street, Wall Street, Wall Street: Money Never Sleeps — actually, they all generally boil-down to a sordid tale involving the moneyed classes ostensibly “working” on that most ballyhooed of streets.

So it comes as no surprise then that pundits, investors, and moneyed elites are decrying Apple’s recent investor letter citing the ongoing trade war with China, slowing sales due to extrinsic circumstances such as lack of consumer demand and consumers maintaining their devices beyond the desired life-cycle, and what the company is calling “Emerging Market Challenges” (likely coded language for China and other countries’ failure to prosecute manufacturers of copycat products for trademark infringement, intellectual property theft, and brazen corporate espionage). …


There have certainly been enough theories and post-mortem articles surrounding Hillary Clinton’s failed 2016 presidential election bid to keep scholars busy for the next two decades. Some have claimed her loss was attributed to economic fears, others claimed it was due to blowback to perceived Democratic social policies (gay marriage, abortion, etc.), while others have bemoaned the breakdown of the American political process and political decorum.

Instead, I’d like to posit something potentially more radical: all of it is to blame. And that the blame lies squarely at the feet of Democratic leadership unwilling or unable to confront the political, economic, and social realities that are staring us down from behind the barrel of an AR-style rifle. …

About

JGoin

Rock climber, splitboarder, voracious reader, systems administrator. Still trying to figure stuff out. My superpower is empathy.

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