After reading this I am reminded of Samuel L. Jackson’s line in the trailer for the new King Kong movie, “Tell me what I don’t know”. From your writing you seem to be an intelligent person and from the photo very attractive, so why can’t you keep anyone? People like you have a steady routine that you enjoy, giving up part of it to mesh with another person’s routine is difficult. My son is a few years older than your requirement and is a successful lawyer. He thought he had “The One”, they had already furnished an apartment. He was not going to change for her and when he came to Thanksgiving dinner without her I knew there was trouble. She wanted him to eat with her parents. Neither would give so that was the end.

I was 33 and divorced with two kids when I married my second wife. She was 19 and thought I was wonderful and after 30 years together still does. She fit her life around what I wanted to do because she had not developed an unbreakable routine. Not saying you have to become subservient to a man to keep one but getting one at your age that will give up his established life to match yours is very unlikely. You may have to stop working so hard at it and just enjoy life as it happens.