Always have an answer to the statement,“So, tell me about yourself.”
It’s easy to compare yourself to others. Whether you’re going for a new job, a promotion, or even just sizing yourself up against other people in your life — it’s likely you’ve found someone to measure your worth against.
That’s not surprising, considering approximately 10% of our thoughts are spent comparing ourselves to others. When we compare ourselves to others, however, we’re assuming that they are more valuable than we are. Their work ethic or their perfect Instagram-worthy life are better than we are.
They’re a better fit than we are. …
Your first two weeks are foundational to the relationship with your team.
Whether you’ve found yourself managing a team or a leader of one, you may have a lot of concerns running through your mind:
“What if I’m a bad leader?”
“Will they like me?”
“What if they’re bad employees?”
“What if they don’t listen to me?”
And while you probably wouldn’t dare repeat those worries to anyone else, hearing these voices is, in my opinion, bound to happen at some point in a change to your leadership status. Working with a new team always comes with its stresses and fears. You don’t know what your team dynamic is going to be and you don’t know how you’ll bet manage them. …
It seems anywhere I turn and any sphere I participate in, there’s a feeling that permeates the air. Whether it’s at work or with my hobbies, I feel it myself and hear friends share with me the same thought. They describe the retreat inward, the knot in their stomach, the darting eyes back and forth, and the fear. The Fear that we’ll get found out and everything will be ruined.
In my head, I hear the familiar voices that prevent me from taking action:
“What was I thinking? You’re not good enough for this.”
“If they only looked at my work, they’d know the truth.” …
Over the last few weeks, I’ve embarked on the exercise of writing out a list of 100 dreams for my life. I first learned of the exercise while reading Author and Time Management Expert Laura Vanderkam’s book, 168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think. I loved the idea but balked at its effectiveness.
Vanderkam suggests the List of 100 Dreams, initially developed by Career Coach Caroline Ceniza-Levine, is a tool for determining what you want from your life — before deciding where you should (or should not) be spending your time. …
Because you’re probably just bugging people.
It’s no mystery that consistent feedback helps cultivate anything from relationships to organizations. In offices, we ask for feedback to do our jobs better. Among friends, we want feedback to be certain we’re doing right by them.
Feedback, candor, and honesty are often regarded as helpful and constructive. Most people have a problem with either giving and receiving feedback. As a result, most of the literature out there is speaks to those groups.
Let’s say you don’t fall into either of those camps. You LOVE feedback! You give feedback All. The. Time!
Yet, though you’re committing to giving feedback, you’ve noticed your teammates aren’t quite as enthusiastic about your consistent feedback. Worse, it feels like they’re increasingly in denial or arguing with you about the issues you’re raising. …
Between all the projects I’ve started, stopped, and resumed, I’ve identified some specific questions I ask myself when I am not sure whether or not to continue spending time on a project.
Sometimes, the project becomes too time-consuming; other times, I lose the fire that was once inside me to pursue it. No matter where you are when you start getting “The Quits,” I suggest taking a hard look at your time spent on your project through five lenses.
Even if that’s all I’ve done until now.
Each time I create some piece of art for the internet, whether it be a written piece, a social media post, or a page on my website, I always get the same sick feeling before I hit publish.
Putting myself out there is hard for me, mainly because every time I hit publish, I feel like I am saying to the world, “I’m here again! See! I did it!”
That feeling is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, I look at that feeling and say, “look at me, reclaiming my time and space in the world.” On the other, the more practical side of me, is saying “what if this is the last one I do?” …
Put down the compliment sandwich.
As a leader and communicator, it’s crucial that the messages I share with my team are received correctly. I work in a fast-paced environment, and, as the adage goes, time is money. So, when I have an employee who needs to be corrected, I don’t just need to share that correction fast — I need the employee to understand it fast.
And isn’t that the case for all of us, fast-paced environment or not? A disengaged employee can cost a company “34% for every $10,000 of salary”, according to LinkedIn.com. And with just short of half of employees saying that they are disengaged when they don’t receive feedback, that means that the onus is on us, as leaders, to set our employees up for success. …
I was looking forward to this Thanksgiving break a lot more than I am now that I’m in it.
I got married in early October of this year, so after all the hubbub, family-ness, and travel of that period, I was really looking forward to hunkering down for the rest of 2019.
I’m privileged to work for a company that gave us both a half-day on Wednesday and a full day off on Black Friday I looked forward to this Thanksgiving break as an opportunity to do all the things I don’t normally prioritize: rest, writing, working on updating my blog, working on my e-course, looking up dog training, exercising, etc. That means I said no to most any travel or get-together plans. Thanksgiving travel? No way. Christmas travel to see family? Already saw ’em. …
I am not a writer. At least, I didn’t think I was. Then I did. Then I didn’t again.
Here’s what happened:
I have been writing for one week. I’ve been thinking about writing and reading about writing now for years. I’ve been talking about it for a little less than that. And I finally, finally walked through my fear of vulnerability and after having my husband (a proven writer) proofread my work, I published my first article on Medium one week ago.
The first one did not get curated. As it turns out, no matter how much information I’d consumed about “How To Write a Great Medium Article” and “11 Things To Do In Every Medium Article,” asking for claps is not cool. …