Be your fucking self.

I’ve spent a large amount of my adult life with depression and anxiety.

It sucks.

In the last few months, things have improved dramatically.

Not through therapy or medication, but through focusing on who I am and looking at things in my life with greater perspective.

I’ve dedicated far too much time expecting too much from people. It’s a horrible spiral that leads to toxic relationships, and I’ve found that it’s tied mostly to me trying to be something I’m not.

I spent far too much time trying to become this “perfect version of myself”. I hated it. It was in no way a reflection of me. This, coupled with me having a tendency to overthink things, pushed me further in the wrong direction.

I’ve personally wasted a lot of time placing certain people on pedestals, and putting myself in a place where I thought every small thing that went wrong with that relationship (be it romantic or otherwise), was my fault.

At the end of the day, treating people in a manner that aligns with your beliefs, will make you a much happier person.

If you want to speak to someone, or ask to see them, go and do it.

It turns out, the people who choose to have you around want you there, a lot.

They want to make you happy and they’ll be happy to see you or speak to you.

Overthinking situations clouds your judgement.

I spent a lot of time recently focusing on my perspective and how it influences my life.

I’d absolutely and completely recommend this to anyone.

Happy, sad or in-between.

Think about your life. What makes you happy. Your goals and aspirations and priorities. Those are the things that make you who you are and they’re easy to lose sight of.

I guarantee, if you have a difficult decision to make and want to make the right decision, focusing on these things and putting yourself first will get you a long way towards making the right decision.

It’s difficult, and sometimes you’ll lose sight of what’s important. You’ll make the wrong decision, and it’ll suck.

You’ll mope for a bit, pick yourself up and then you will learn from that mistake and focus more next time.

It all starts with you.

Be your fucking self.