2015: read, heard, written down and remembered

Throughout this year I have read thought-provoking articles and books, listened to some incredible music and had many conversations with many different types of people. From these moments, I would take the time to write down some interesting things that really stuck with me. Some things stuck with me so much I even remembered them. So, I’m sharing a little of what I learned in 2015 with you. I know I will bring this wisdom into 2016 with me, and I hope you do too.

  1. “Success takes care of those who create success for others.” — John H. Schwarz, If I Knew Then
  2. “The great thing about this life is that you can be someone different to everybody.” — All the Bright Places by Jennifer Niven
  3. “Maybe faith really is a simple thing. Perhaps it is as easy as finding joy in each other and celebrating the simple, everyday moments that light up even our darkest times.” — Kate Spencer, My 4-Year-Old Thinks she’s Jewish and it’s Changed how I see my own Faith
  4. “The truth is, when we pass someone up because the timing is wrong, what we are really saying is that we don’t care to spend our time on that person.” — Heidi Priebe, The Truth About Meeting Someone at the Wrong Time
  5. “Studies of conversation both in the laboratory and in natural settings show that when two people are talking, the mere presence of a phone on a table between them or in the periphery of their vision changes both what they talk about and the degree of connection they feel. People keep the conversation on topics where they won’t mind being interrupted. They don’t feel as invested in each other. Even a silent phone disconnects us.” — Sherry Turkle, Stop Googling. Let’s Talk.
  6. “Count the achievements in your life and count the dreams in your brain. If you have more dreams than achievements, you are young.” — Shimon Peres
  7. “Let’s make a mess cause we’ve been clean for way too long.” — Matt and Kim, Make a Mess
  8. “Use these years to grow. Grow more. And more. For goodness sakes, grow as hard as you possibly can. Don’t get stuck. Don’t be content. Don’t get comfortable. Don’t settle down. You don’t have to have your life figured out right now. This doesn’t have to be the unequivocal best decade of your life. Period. The end. Remember that the world wants you to grow. It needs you to grow. It needs you to become something it cannot recognize. A whole new creature. The creature you were meant to be. I know it’s scary. Really scary. But you have to put on your wings and grow. Otherwise, well, we’d have a world full of flowers that never sprouted. Rivers that never flowed. A world with caterpillars too afraid to make cocoons. Too afraid to grow wings. Too afraid to become something more. A world without butterflies.” — Peter Kesaris, 7 Ways We Need to Grow in our Twenties
  9. “It’s the people in your life that will shape you. Appreciate them.” — Pete Sampras, Letter to My Younger Self
  10. “History will judge you not for the power you wield but for the way you wield it to improve the world.” — Garden of Burning Sand by Corban Addison
  11. “You can’t get everything from one place.” — Sue Walsh
  12. “A child does not walk onto a playground and say to herself, ‘How do I find fun?’ She just goes and has fun.” — Mark Manson, Screw Finding Your Passion
  13. “I’ve lived through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.” — Mark Twain
  14. “When leaders throughout an organization take an active, genuine interest in the people they manage, when they invest real time to understand employees at a fundamental level, they create a climate for greater morale, loyalty and yes, growth.” — Patrick Lencioni, To Grow Your Business, You’ve Got to Know Your People
  15. “The only way to avoid being left behind is to start moving.” — After You by Jojo Moyes
  16. “As they move through life, people make and keep friends in different ways.” — Julie Beck, How Friendships Change in Adulthood
  17. “No matter what you want, somebody else wants it just as bad. No matter what you got, somebody else has got it worse.” — Walk The Moon, Portugal
  18. “And what we have together becomes intangible. And if it’s intangible it can never end because officially there’s nothing to end. And if it never ends, there’s no real closure, no opportunity to move on. Instead, we spend our emotional energy on someone we’ve built up and convinced ourselves we need. We fixate on a person who may not be right for us simply because he never wronged us. Because without a label, he never really had the chance.” — Jordana Narin, No Labels, No Drama, Right?
  19. “How impossible life would be without the option to retreat into fantasy.” — Collier Meyerson, After Emma
  20. “People’s relationships are reflections of their keenest yet most inarticulable desires, their hopes and insecurities taking shape physically, in the form of another person. What do you identify as essential to you? What’s missing in you that you want someone else to provide? A successful relationship is one in which both people recognize the best of what the other person has to offer and chooses to value it as well. And within every relationship is something unfulfilled and disappointing, something that has to be sought elsewhere.” — A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara
  21. “If you want to accomplish something big, you need to be a bit shaken.” — Humans of New York
  22. “And when you feel the world wrapping round your neck, don’t succumb.” — Mumford & Sons, Broad-Shouldered Beasts
  23. “Culture is everything we don’t have to do. We have to wear clothes in this climate, but we don’t have to evolve Levis and Yves Saint Laurent. We have to eat, but we don’t have to evolve nouvelle cuisine, Szechuan cooking. We have to, perhaps, get our hair cut, to keep it out of our eyes, but we don’t have to have hairstyles… What happens to you when you choose to get your hair cut in a particular way? What you’re really doing is saying to yourself I want to be the kind of person who has this kind of haircut.” Brian Eno, Perfume, Defense and David Bowie’s Wedding
  24. “When people don’t unload their opinions and feel like they’ve been listened to, they won’t really get on board.” — The Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni
  25. “The test of a first rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at once.” — F. Scott Fitzgerald
  26. “The thing about taking on any partnership is the entire process of unlearning the selfishness we’ve all cultivated.” — Hanif Abdurraqib, I’ll Never Be My Wife’s Equal
  27. “Real empathy is sometimes not insisting that it will be okay but acknowledging that it’s not.” — Sheryl Sandberg
  28. “When you set relationship as the only goal, you miss the whole point of the dating process. Meeting people and going on dates is about having fun, about the person you’re with, not about the label. The label will come on its own terms at its own time.” — Ellen Nguyen, How To Be Smart About Dating
  29. “Worrying is the equivalent of paying interest on a debt that is not owed.” — Jeremy Shure, Slowing The Race That Never Was
  30. “If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place.” — Nora Roberts
  31. “Things happen, that’s all they ever do.” — Dawes, Things Happen
  32. “While it’s easy to see the value of success in winning something that you’ve tried for, tremendous benefits also come from the work involved in losing. Because there is value in fighting for something important to you, even when the outcome is not what you hoped it would be.” — Wendy Davis, I Fucking Hate to Lose
  33. “We can’t fully be ourselves without a community. Without people to reflect back to us who we really are.” — Shailene Woodley
  34. “It’s even worse when you don’t hate your job or your life or your situation, but are instead just indifferent to it. Hating something at least forces you to actively feel something and to have an opinion and to put effort towards thinking a certain way. But when you’re indifferent to the things and the experiences you encounter every day, you become a shell of yourself. You have even less of a desire to make a change because, hey, things aren’t terrible.” — Kim Quindlen, Why We’re Addicted to Feeling Uninspired
  35. “If you are prepared, you are over-prepared.” — Jon Newman
  36. “If you feel like you shouldn’t be somewhere: fake it. Do it not until you make it, but until you become it.” — Amy Cuddy
  37. “Never eat lunch at your desk if you can avoid it.” — 100 Wise Words for Everyone
  38. “There’s something uniquely valuable in everyone, and we’ll be much happier and better off if we invest the time and energy it takes to find it.” — Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari
  39. “Be generous — and not just with money. Sharing your heart and wisdom costs nothing.” — Patricia Kincaid
  40. “People’s memories are short and opinions malleable.” — Jenna Lyons, The Watermelon Skirt
  41. “You are lost because you care. You’re lost because you’re passionate. You’re lost because you know that there is more inside of you than what you’re currently offering the world and that is a brilliant thing to know.” — Heidi Priebe, Read This If You’re 23 and Lost
  42. “You can’t fight what feels right.” — Hudson Thames, How I Want Ya
  43. Q: “I’m 29 and single. Should I be worried?” A: “About ISIS, yeah.” — Tina Fey
  44. “We don’t have a word for the opposite of loneliness, but if we did, I could say that’s what I want in life….what I’m scared of losing…It’s not quite love and it’s not quite community; it’s just this feeling that there are people, an abundance of people, who are in this together. Who are on your team. When the check is paid and you stay at the table. When it’s four a.m. and no one goes to bed. That night with the guitar. That night we can’t remember. That time we did, we went, we saw, we laughed, we felt. The hats.” Marina Keegan, — The Opposite of Loneliness
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