Emotions and Managing Them — A Journey of Realization and Recovery
A Story of Awakening and finding a new style in life.
Imagine a life entangled in the webs of alcoholism and the high-stakes world of multi-level marketing (MLM). This was the reality for a person who lived each day balancing the addictive allure of the next drink and the next big sale. Let’s call this person Alex.
Alex had been an MLM marketer for over a decade, drawn by the promise of financial freedom and success. The thrill of recruiting others and climbing the ranks was intoxicating, much like the buzz from a good drink. It wasn’t until a stint in drug rehabilitation that Alex had a profound realization: the mechanisms of alcoholism and MLM were disturbingly similar — both demanded continuous engagement and offered escalating rewards, yet often at a great personal cost.
During rehab, Alex learned to manage emotions, a skill that had been buried under years of alcohol abuse and high-pressure sales tactics. The program emphasized setting goals, following a structured plan, finding a mentor or sponsor, and understanding the ‘why’ behind every action.
Here’s how Alex applied these principles to both recovery from alcoholism and a healthier approach to MLM:
1. **Goal to Aim For**
**Alcoholism:** The goal was and is sobriety. Not just abstaining from drinking, but finding a deeper sense of peace and health.
**MLM:** The goal shifted from making quick money to building genuine relationships and helping others without the pressure of immediate financial gain. [This is given about MLM and that is exactly why MLM has such a bad reputation. The focus is on the money but not on how it comes].
2. **Program**
**Alcoholism:** Alex followed a 12-step program, which provided a clear path to recovery and helped manage the emotional turmoil that comes with addiction.
**MLM:** Alex approached MLM with a new way of thinking, focusing on the basics. Make a living doing what you already do.
3. **Sponsor**
**Alcoholism:** Alex found a sponsor who had been sober for over 20 years. This person was (is) a guide, a confidant, and a constant reminder of the rewards of sobriety. Today, Alex’s AA Sponsor is his MLM partner as well.
**MLM:** In MLM, Alex sought a mentor who valued integrity over profits. This relationship helped reshape Alex’s approach to business, focusing on long-term success and personal well-being.
4. **Strong Why**
**Alcoholism:** Alex’s ‘why’ was to rebuild relationships with family and friends and regain a healthy lifestyle that had been neglected.
**MLM:** The new ‘why’ was to create a business model that felt authentic and sustainable, without exploiting others or oneself.
The Emotional Journey
Managing emotions was crucial in both arenas. Alex learned that feelings of inadequacy, stress, and the need for acceptance often fueled both the drinking and the aggressive MLM tactics. Rehabilitation taught Alex to recognize these emotions, understand their roots, and respond to them healthily.
Mindfulness and meditation became daily practices, helping Alex stay grounded and focused. Regular meetings with both the sponsor and the mentor provided not just guidance, but also accountability — a key component in managing any kind of addictive behavior.
Alex’s story is one of transformation and hard-earned wisdom. It highlights the importance of emotional management in overcoming not just addiction, but also in reshaping one’s approach to business and personal success. For anyone struggling with similar issues, remember that the first step is acknowledging the problem, and the next is seeking help. With the right goals, program, sponsor, and a strong why, change is more than possible — it’s within reach.
My Path to Recovery and Growth
As I continue to share my journey, I want you to know that Alex is not just a character in a story; Alex is me. I am a person who has lived through the challenges of alcoholism intertwined with the pressures of multi-level marketing. Unlike Alex, I have been doing my MLM for almost 30 years.
Today, I stand before you not just as a survivor, but as someone thriving through the lessons learned and the tools gained.
The Power of Transparency
My decision to be transparent about my struggles is driven by a desire to inspire and encourage others who may find themselves in similar situations. I know many out there feel trapped in cycles of addiction, whether to substances or toxic business practices. I want to show you that it’s not just possible to break free but to build a life filled with integrity and true success.
Implementing the Tools for a New Style In Life
When I was in rehab, embracing the program’s structure was critical. It wasn’t just about stopping a behavior but about starting a new style in life.
It wasn’t just about halting a behavior but about initiating a new style in life. Here’s how these tools can be a foundation for anyone ready to start anew:
1. **Set Clear, Meaningful Goals**
Define what you want your life to look like. This isn’t just about stopping something harmful, but starting something beneficial. Whether it’s sobriety, a healthier approach to work, or repairing relationships, know what you are working towards. [Strong WHY].
2. **Follow a Structured Program**
Find a program that resonates with you. This could be a 12-step program, a professional mentorship in your field, or even a personal development course. The structure provides a roadmap, and sticking to it builds momentum.
3. **Seek Out a Mentor or Sponsor**
Just as I found guidance and support from my sponsor and mentor, you too can benefit immensely from someone who has walked the path before you. This person can offer not just advice but also accountability. I know from experience that there are sponsors who do not know what they are doing. They should be your assistants, but usually, they only pursue their interests. [AVOID SUCH PEOPLE].
4. **Keep Your ‘Why’ at the Forefront**
Always remember why you started on this path. Write it down, talk about it, and keep it close to your heart. This ‘why’ will keep you motivated when things get tough.
Living the Change
Since embracing these tools, my life has transformed. I’ve rebuilt relationships that were damaged by my previous lifestyle. My approach to business has changed; I no longer prioritize profit over people. Instead, I focus on building trust and providing real value. This shift has not only made me happier but has also attracted more genuine opportunities my way.
A Call to Action
If you’re reading this and see parts of your story in mine, know that it’s never too late to make a change. The tools I’ve shared are not just theoretical — they are practical and proven. They worked for me and they can work for you too.
Start small if you need to. Set a goal for one day, then a week, then a month. Reach out for help. Find a program. Remember your ‘WHY’. And most importantly, believe in your capacity to change. Your new style in life is waiting, and it’s full of potential and peace.
Conclusion
Sharing my story is part of my ongoing recovery and growth. It reminds me of where I’ve been and where I’m going. For those of you on the brink of change, let this story be a beacon. You are not alone, and with the right tools, your new beginning is within reach. Let’s walk this path together towards a brighter, healthier future.