Focus on what is right in front of you
When you experience something traumatic, it can be easy to let it dominate your thoughts. To ruminate. And to create constant vigilance in your mind. To try to predict the future so that you can prepare and never let it happen again.
The things we do to self-sabotage the good things in our lives aren’t things we should adopt as pets. We shouldn’t mistake toxic patterns for charming flaws in our makeup and continue to engage in them. Or, worse, indulge in them.