The Story of Grief
Who did you become? What do you believe?

So, what’s the story of grief? What’s YOUR story of grief? What do you believe? Who did you become . . . who are you becoming? When you lose a loved one like I lost my mom; it’s an indescribable pain. Grief, in my opinion is something that never ends. There’s no expiration date. One just learns how to deal with it. My mother went to sleep in December of 2015. I had to then experience all of the first moments without her in 2016. While many rejoiced with laughter, kisses, hugs, confetti and champagne at 12 AM January 1, 2016; I was in deep sorrow knowing that my mother, just 25 days prior had went to sleep. When I think back to 2014 when there were countdowns on every channel to bring in 2015, I would have never imagined that the end of the year would have ended the way it did. It hurts.
When I feel down about my mother not being here, I immediately thank God for my blessings. My beautiful children, my supportive husband who prays with me, my friends and the list goes on. Grief is a universal issue that everyone can relate to in one way or another. It’s a pain that has the strength to transform people into a whole new version of themselves. Who am I becoming in the face of grief? I have always felt close to God, but the pain pushed me even closer to Him. I prayed and begged Him for strength. I feel that I am becoming Spiritually stronger. I feel that I am becoming more of me. I wanted to choose to be strong for my children. That’s what they deserve. That’s also what my mother wanted. She would be proud of me. I miss her deeply. Some days are still harder than other days It’s clear when she’s not apart of the celebration of special moments. I still cry at the thought of her not being here. And, sometimes I smile at all of the beautiful memories she gave our family. She was an incredible mother. An incredible woman.
Grief is brutally honest. It has a way of showing you who genuinely supports you. It shows you what you’re made of. It can show you who you are if you allow it. Everyone has their own story of grief. Their own idea of what it does. Grief can depress its victims so badly that they start to gravitate toward additions to help them cope. Grief can even make some suicidal. It can even cause mental illness that didn’t exit prior. Whatever the case, it has the ability to weigh on ones’ strengths and weaknesses. If you know of someone who’s grieving, try to be some type of encouragement to them. If you can’t be of any assistance, contact someone who can be. Also, don’t take anything personal. The journey of grief is a tough one. Sometimes or maybe even most times that person may only want to be surrounded by those closest to him or her. Just do what you can and the person would most likely be thankful for it.
So, what’s your story of grief?
