What It’s Like to Be Invisible
Leila Janah

I think you still miss the point. From my own observations, it’s not about women at all (experiencing explicit sexism or “deficiency sexism”). Psychology calls it “ingroup favouritism”. Basically, a person who identifies themselves with a group, gets their self-esteem raised by recognizing somebody from the same group as smart and great. You pat my back, I pat yours. Two men happily chatting but disregarding a woman next to them are in a state of bromance lite (love-love-love, kiss-kiss-kiss). We are great dudes, bro! It doesn’t exactly align with gender, such as some women can be included (and excluding other women), and some men excluded. And you can see all kinds of stuff, older men disregarding young ones (and visa versa), young people of both genders chatting together and considering themselves “inclusive”, but labeling an older women as a “mother”. I also think, clinging to shallow similarities in a professional setting is an indicator of immaturity (in ripe 30s or 50s). Professionals should behave like humans and individuals, not like some insecure bragging boys and girls. Men: if you want to help women, stop favouring people like yourself.

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