ASKING FOR SUPPORT IS AN ACT OF PERSONAL POWER

Janet Hilts
Sep 1, 2018 · 2 min read

When you ask for help, you’re taking responsibility for yourself. Yes — you really are!

Asking for love, asking for ideas, asking for feedback is making your desire clear to someone else.

It’s claiming your desire for yourself, too. You’re saying, “I’m in charge of my own emotions and my own thoughts and plans, and I want your assistance as part of my team. Here’s what I want help with. And I’m open to receive it.”

You see, making a request is very different from stating a need. If you say “I need this,” you’re saying that on some level you’re helpless without it. And it puts the whole burden of the outcome on the other person. You’re just handing them your power.

Directly asking for help and support is also very different from only stating your challenge or how you’re feeling. And different from indirectly declaring your problem through body language, facial expressions or behavior.

Because those actions also put all the power in someone else’s hands.

Then they can make the choice to do nothing. Or they’re left to guess what your desire is. And then they have to risk giving you something you don’t want, and maybe feeling rejected by you because they guessed wrong.

Give yourself AND the people who love you the gift of directly asking them for what you want.

If this is new for you, it might mean you first need to ask yourself for clarity about what you really want. That’s an act of personal power , too — to actually own for yourself what your desire is.

Your heart knows what you want. Take the leap to ask for it out loud. Ask for the help and support you want. That’s power!