not love, but comfort.
7 Reasons Strong People Tend To Attract Difficult Relationships
Brianna Wiest

Or even more basic: familiarity. Creatures of habit tending to find their normal.

Also your “emotional Overton window” has been shifted way over by growing up with the ambivalence of those who struggle to manage themselves… let alone life.

Habituated to extremes, real normal seems…beige?

Shortcuts, cos that usually works :-/

It’s not like people come flagged tho- nobody starts off at dickhead. Just relationships can bring out the least, shall we say, “curated” parts…

Worst case scenario it’s in the program, primed to recognise where there was breedability and nothing more…

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