Yeah, bailing out on gender conformity is problematic. Is there a community out there that you can be a part of or just a desert wasteland? Think the Exodus story. Or is the promise land at hand?
I marvel at the subtlety of what you say, “I dress like a man, and I am a man. I’m just not male. I am also heterosexual,…”.
I translate your use of “male” to mean all that crap men learn that they are suppose do, say, think, feel, etc. Am I getting this right?