if I feel a strong need on a daily basis to meet other adults, to be intellectually stimulated, and to have time to myself, am I selfish?
I’m a selfish mother. I guess that’s okay.
Nidhi Gupta
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Nidhi, I think that all parents battle with this dichotomy; we were once ourselves, now we are parents and sometimes these roles conflict with each other.

On becoming a parent there is a lot of social pressure to shed your old skin and to leave your old life behind.

Our kids are older now, 9 and 7 years of age, but I try my best to cling to sme elements of my old life (when I can).

Being true to yourself and your own happiness can be critical as you grow into your role as a parent (and we are always growing and the parenting role is always changing).

I don’t think it’s possible to be a happy, ‘good’ parent if you suppress your real self.

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