You cant hold other people responsible for how you “feel”. How can I possibly know what you think and feel and then hold me responsible? Each person needs to try to learn to control their feelings and if it’s upsetting move away from that person or situation. We are each responsible for looking after ourself. This whole feelings are facts thing is just immaturity. Once you become an adult you should see the world differently otherwise you’re going to be walking around triggered by everything and everyone and they won’t have a clue; only you will.
Remember we are all powerless over people, places and things. But we can control our own emotional responses with practice and then use logic and instinct to get out of bad situations.