Three essential ingredients that drive personal change
Never regret anything in life, because at one time it was exactly what you wanted.
July 18, 2014 was the final day at my desk job. It’s was a work in progress for over 2 years prior, and I’m glad to say that I made a transition to a happier, whole new me. I knew from the second year of my four year university degree, that my choice of occupation (Mechanical Engineering) was ‘not my cup of tea’. I tried many avenues, and in the end decided that we were not a match meant to be.
Many people ask me “why?”, to which I respond “why not?”. Some people saw my situation as a lost opportunity — leaving a stable, well paying career — whereas I saw many, many opportunities to be gained. Besides, no matter what, I have the safety net of a degree for the rest of my life, so why not spend time being adventurous, daring, and create a journey according to my own terms.
After 6 years of searching with an outdated map, it was time I went shopping….
I quit my job, packed my bags, shoved life into my tiny VW Polo, and headed south towards new opportunity, inspiring friends, and a foreign land to explore. I was in my element — totally immersed and enjoying the sites, sounds, and simplicity of life on the road. And, of course, I met an amazing girl along the way just to shake things up.
It wasn’t all smooth sailing though. It was a tough mental battle fought to make it that far, to a point where I was freed from the chains of my desk job, d there were no shortage of people questioning my motives. The ensuing negative, damaging self-talk had the potential to derail my desire to be free and search for my true calling, and have me running back to corporate world, tail between my legs.
In comes this post.
I attribute the actions I took to get me out of that ‘sticky’ situation, to certain ingredients that I developed and used, particularly during the 2 years prior. I’m confident that, as I share them with you here, you could use them to create some awesome life-changing adventures too.
The Ingredients List:
1. The right support
I’ve talked about it many times before, and I’ll say it again. You’ve gotta select the right people to support you! Remember this quote?
“You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” ~Jim Rohn
In no way is this more important than when it comes to fulfilling your dreams, desires, and goals of change.
If you’ve ever tried it, you’ll know what I mean when I say it’s hard to go at it alone. The world is a big, scary place when confronted as one.
As a wise proverb states, a problem shared is a problem halved.
If you’re stuck and don’t have any inspiration, make this your number one priority. Get out there, do what you love to do, and connect with like-minded people. Your spirit, enthusiasm, and progress towards your goals will accelerate beyond imagination!
2. You just gotta have faith
George Michael said it right. Sometimes, you’ve gotta have faith.
Some people believe in fate, some in coincidence, some in destiny. None are incorrect. All have their place in this world as they ‘work’ for different people.
Above all of these, I’m certain that to do better, you need to go further.
To succeed, you must learn to nurture the quality and the belief of faith in yourself.
“Faith — confidence or trust in a person, thing, deity, view, or in the doctrines or teachings of a religion. It can also be defined as belief that is not based on proof, and is often used as a synonym for hope, trust, or belief.” ~Wikipedia
You don’t need to believe in a ‘higher power’ for miracles to happen. There are miracles awaiting your discovery inside you!
When times get tough and what you do seems silly, unrealistic, or impossible, these are the times to call on your quality of faith to inspire you. Remind yourself that all the ‘miracles’ of the past (think electricity, man landing on the moon, the invention of the modern computer for example) were created by people just like you. The thing is, they mastered an important ability.
Successful people have a mastered ability to have faith in their actions, their judgement, and in what they stand for.
3. All talk and no action won’t get you far. Get motivated
There’s never a result without decisive action!
I’m sure you’ve seen it before. There’s no shortage of people that sit and complain about the state of ‘X’ or the annoyance of person ‘Y’, and that’s as far as they get…
They complain, foster resentment and anger, and then complain some more.
Talk with no action is likely to lead to a cycle of doubt, a loss of faith, and the development of subsequent negative thought patterns which, as I’ve discussed before in a previous post, are damaging your ability to be better.
Sure I get it, action is scary.
What’s scarier though? Acting with the possibility of success, or stalling with a guarantee of failure?
It’s up to you.
Take action. The rest will follow.
There you have it. It’s a snippet of how I arrived to writing this post, and what it took for my ship to set sail.
Have you got an idea to change life and don’t know how to start? I suggest you start with these important qualities discussed in this post that will give you strength and guidance on your journey.
- Selection of the right support network,
- Faith in your abilities, and
- Taking action on your plans.
I’ve found them most helpful on my journey, and I hope they prove helpful to you too.
Originally published at jasontownsend.com.au on August 11, 2014.