What’s With White Girls Obsession With Big Butts?
I remember dating a guy who was a gym rat. It seems as though because I am slim, I tend to meet a lot of men who happen to be gym rats.
There was nothing wrong with working out and ensuring that you’re healthy. Maintaining your body in your youth and strengthening your tendons! That’s great.
But let’s be for real.
We need to address this new gym cult and obsession with having a big butt.
It’s not just white women, its black men too.
Now, I will say, I believe that most brothers are butt guys.
White women love melanin and now that Tik-Toks interracial trends have given white women a right of passage, they want to be apart of the community.
While I was in the gym, dreading it — I looked around.
I noticed that everyone in the gym was struggling with some form of body dysmorphia.
The gym cult has become such a hidden epidemic that we fail to notice it.
Working out has become a new, subtle addiction.
We find ourselves ashamed when we tell others we don’t work out, as if there weren’t other modes and mediums to channel healthy exercise —
I remember the times where if you had a big butt, it was like, okay. You’re blessed, you got it like that girl!
I remember the times when if a white girl had a big butt, she was considered fat.
In a podcast episode, I spoke about the hypersexuality in black women, how this butt phenonmenon has had its roots in the exploitation of black women for centuries in America.
I always say, that if black people knew their history — they wouldn’t do the things that they do today. I think far too often we want to be alleviated from the pain and oppression that is America, that we seek entertainment rather than enlightenment.
When I ask black women, do they know Sarah Baartman, most will say no. But they know Beyoncés reference to her in her song. Honoring Sarahs hips — and though this reference was intended with a sense of pride, women showing off their behinds could be due to a lack of awareness of what black women have endured in this country.
I remember being in school and the black women who had big butts were often humiliated. They were often lusted after by men and only considered by their waistlines. I would see the boys in school run and smack their butts without any punishment. It was dehumanizing.
What people don’t know is the real story behind the humiliating and debilitating acts that were committed against black women who were considered voluptuous.
The rape, the disrespect, disregard, the fat shaming and the labels of promiscuity. There were also times where women of a certain size were not able to find cute and stylish clothing. There were stores like Lane Bryant and such.
When I see white women seeking to attain this admiration from black men, it’s slightly hysterical.
We know that white women have long windedly sought to surpass and emulate black women, and so have certain members of the LG+ community — but I would like to add that having a big butt doesn’t make you.
I realize at this point, this butt obsession isn’t solely about race or racism, but it’s about women.
Women are more competitive and insecure now more than ever. Long gone are the days when you can feel pretty in your city — now you’re comparing yourself to girls in oceanic cities or women who reside near the west coast with fresh fruit and clean water.
Men and women need to realize that we’re going to grow old. And it doesn’t mean that you should let yourself go and choose not to take care of your body.
But after the wave of postpartum mommy pics with the women who had good genetics, and snapped back in an instant, women became obsessed with maintaining a youthful look despite life’s invariable transformations.
White women were enabled in their lust for melanin and fed into the few black men who sat online degrading black women, claiming that white women were better partners. White women then sought an opportunity to become them. From fillers, to hips and thighs, I notice the look in their eyes when I walk by — even the rude service I sometimes get nowadays. Can we acknowledge what this movement created in the hearts of some white women?
How black men disrespecting black women in front of white women, has now given white women, especially those in interracial relationships, rights of passage to disrespect black women?
I write today to let you know that you are going to grow older. Take care of your health but also take care of your relationships. It amazes me, our current culture — We don’t see that the problem with everyones mental health is in direct correlation to the break down in genuine relationships.
You can take care of yourself and still have a personality. You can be healthy and youthful looking but things will inevitably sag as you get older. For years women have found their value merely in their external features. Which, is funny to me because we literally create life.. From the inside.
We’ve created a culture of pure vanity and men hate it. Matter of fact, I think men are now leaning towards vanity. For the first time, more men are considering Lipo and hair attachments.
We will soon be so detached from ourselves, either, from not creating a life that we love because we’re so focused on sustaining a chapter in our lives that will indefinitely close, or because we’re so obsessed with superficiality, we will no longer be attracted to authenticity.
Wake up people. We’re pushing towards group-think.
