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Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back. — Harvey Mackay

A week ago I had a mini existential crisis. After having finished my novel a month ago (Yay!), being adjusted to working my first Mon-Fri 8–5 job (bleh), and using my weekends to wind down and relax (meh), something major hit me. I am currently not living for myself, others, or God.

I’m not living for myself, because my job is just something…

The love stories found in quarantine.

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When the world shut down in March, I was ill-prepared without a quarantine buddy living in LA county.

I had been kind of seeing someone late February into early March. We had just gone on our third date the week before we all transitioned into stay at home orders. But by the time we all had to stay at home, I came to the realization that I had been ghosted.

Not to despair, because I quickly decided that if I couldn’t leave my house to meet people, my only option was to go online. So online I went. Bumble has…

Don’t be a sheeple.

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“If man were not a gregarious animal, the world might have achieved, by this time, some real progress towards civilisation. Segregate him, and he is no fool. But let him loose among his fellows, and he is lost-he becomes just an unit in unreason.” ― Max Beerbohm, Zuleika Dobson

During a leadership camp in high school, we had a director who liked to perform psychological tricks on us for either entertainment, but more often to teach us a lesson. One time when we sat in a large room filled with rows of seats, he sat upfront in the middle of…

Is it just the idea of someone?

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As quarantine drags on, single people are growing increasingly desperate. We yearn for human connection, and deprived of it, we suffer. The struggle is real.

The struggle is also compelling some of us, however, into action. The Times recently found that, “Bumble reports a 21% increase in messages sent in Seattle, 23% increase in New York City and 26% increase in San Francisco since March 12.”

With options for meeting people greatly reduced, singles are finding themselves drawn more to online dating probably than ever before. …

I’m not sure that I’ve ever known anyone who said, “I definitely want to meet the love of my life online. That’d be so romantic.”

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The world has moved to online since we can no longer go outside. Luckily, everything can be found online. You can shop online, go to school online, read ebooks, share pictures, socialize, and most interestingly — you can meet a potential future mate all on this weird thing we call the internet.

I used to be completely against online dating, though now I feel like I’m left with no other alternative. I acknowledge that it is a legitimate way that people meet, and many successful relationships have happened as a result. But it just seemed so superficial and unromantic. …

My struggle to find a reason to get out of bed every day.

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“They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose, to choose one’s own way.” — Man’s Search for Meaning, Viktor Frankl

Here in California, stay at home orders were issued nearly a month ago, and for Los Angeles County it’s been extended to May 15. I had started out quarantine pretty well, but this past week I think it finally hit me.

To put some context on…

Why on earth would we ever want to withhold love?

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“Often we withhold our affections, waiting first for love to be extended to us. The irony is that we are loved for loving.” ― Richelle E. Goodrich

I love compliments. They make me feel special. My old college roommates understood this and complimented me a lot. They would even repeat the same compliments often, but no matter how often I heard it, it always made me happy. It was a daily reassurance that they cared about me.

One of the best compliments I have ever received came from one of my closest friends. He told me that I find out…

It’s not that women like the bad qualities. It’s that “bad boys tend to have lots of positive traits that come along for the ride of the badness such as good looks, confidence, creativity, humor, charisma, high energy, and good social skills — all things women find attractive.”

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If you google “why do girls like jerks?” (like I did), then you will find way too much speculation on the subject. I’m here to share my findings and add in some speculation of my own, which did not show up in anything I read (admittedly, there was way too much to read).

What all my findings sum up to is that women like seemingly confident men, and are biologically attracted to men who appear to have good genes to pass on. That is an overly-simplified conclusion, but here is the expanded version:

First, what characteristics make someone a jerk…

Everything you’ve ever wondered about what exactly the Bible says about sex

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I’ve researched and covered the topic of sex in the Bible a few times throughout my twenties. Whenever my views toward sex morph, I like to revisit what the Bible really says about it. This time, I decided to dive deeper than I have before.

Before I dive in to the research, I want to first lay out what Christians typically believe about sex and what my views are.

Christian views on sex:

• Sexual acts outside of marriage are sinful

• Sex is only good within the context of marriage

And that pretty much covers it. It’s black and…

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I’m the type of person who gets encouraged and discouraged easily. My confidence level goes zero to a hundred real quick, and back down again. There are times I feel like I can take on the world. I’m invincible and nothing can stop me.

Then, there are the other times when I feel the complete opposite.

Whenever I’m discouraged, I just feel like there is nothing I can do about it. Being discouraged is to doubt yourself, your competency, and your skill. It’s that feeling when you lose confidence in yourself.

The worst part of it is that it makes…

Jasmine Serna

Your twenties are hard. Let’s go through them together. I’m here to share my perspective on life, love, and faith.

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