Find your blessing
It is very easy to get caught up in all the ways our lives could be better. It doesn’t take much to look in the neighbors yard and wish you could have what they have, or envy the brand new car driving next to you. When you are trying to put a roof over your families head and food on the table and there is no money left for fun, it is easy to focus on the negative.
Why? Why do we have a “keeping up with the Jones’” mentality? When did we begin putting all of our value in the things we own?
Learn to be grateful for what is in front of you. Maybe you don’t have the nicest house, but it’s a roof over your head that many people wish they had. Maybe you don’t drive the nicest car, but it gets you from point A to point B without having to use your feet. Is your closet full of designer clothes? Maybe not, but you probably have more than one outfit.
In this house, we don’t have the top of the line electronics. We may even be one of the few families left without a computer of any kind. That is fine though, because our kids enjoy being outside. We can’t take them on fancy vacations, but we do take them on family walks. Our eleven year old does not have a cell phone, but neither does our fifteen year old. Unheard of, right? Don’t get me wrong, they have their electronics, and they both enjoy spending time on them, a lot of time, but they need balance as much as we do.
I feel proud that my kids have a safe place to rest their heads, even if it’s not a fancy house. I feel proud that we have a vehicle to take them where they need to go, even if it’s not brand new or luxury. It gives me joy to make dinner each night and know that I am helping my family feel full and making them smile.
As a whole, we need to find value in what we have already. The smile of your children. The bark of your dog. The purr of your cat. Whatever it may be. Know that if you make someone else’s life even a little bit better along the way, you have purpose. When you have no money in the bank, when you lose all of those material things you put so much pride into, that is when you will know what matters. When you still have arms that can wrap around you and make you feel safe, you are rich. When you still get hugs and kisses from your little one, be it human or fur, you are so wealthy.
It seems so cliché to say someone always has it worse, but the truth is, someone does. It doesn’t take much to recognize pain in someone’s face, when they are standing on a corner begging for a little help. It is not hard to find a single parent in the grocery store buying the bare minimum and scrambling for enough pennies to pay. Do you judge those people? Do you think they aren’t good enough, or they don’t try hard enough or they should just work more?
You will never know what is holding someone back unless you try to get to know them. People look at me and think, she should just get a job. That sounds easy enough. Do they know the reasons behind my not working? Probably not. They probably have no idea that I have serious neck problems, that my arms go numb and my head throbs nearly always. They probably have no idea that because of my spine issues I am limited by my Dr’s (and my body) as to what I can actually do. They probably have no idea that I miss working, I miss doing hair, I miss feeling like I can financially contribute to my family.
You, no matter who you are, no matter the color of your skin, the home you live in, the car you drive, the shoes you wear or the clothing on your back, you ARE valuable! You are worthy! You have something to be thankful for! Never over estimate the happiness of a person you view as ‘having it all.’ Never devalue yourself for having less. After all is said and done, it does not matter what we own, it matters who we are! We all have something in this world to be thankful for. We can all find our blessing. God doesn’t care about what amazing things we can give ourselves, but what amazing things we can give the world!