As a bride to be (9 days!) it’s worthwhile noting that the couple can be respectful of other people’s money (OPM) but family and friends often impose expectations that drive up costs.
Case in point — I did not want a bridal shower/luncheon and indicated this gently. The moms threw one anyway. I had no interest in a videographer, many pushed for one because the ceremony is so small. There were many things where we held firm, but we definitely had to choose our battles.