Good enough parenting means that the child is loved and valued for who they are, not for how they behave, and the child is nurtured, cared for and protected, but not coddled. In fact, the “good enough” parent allows the child to be disappointed and frustrated at times, so that they learn to tolerate and cope with these types of experiences in adulthood.
Time doesn’t work the same way in relationships as it does elsewhere. The waves of grief come every few seconds or minutes right after the divorce. Then each crest and each fall has a span of days, then weeks or longer. The waves dull over time as they stretch out but they never quite stop coming, and late in life we’ll have whole years that are more influenced by our first marriages than other years.