I’ve come back around to read this because my brain is so muddled up with gunk that I need to keep…
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That seems to be cycle that a lot of men get caught in and one that can serve as a self-fulfilling prophecy when men get actually frustrated and angry over being dismissed or derided for being frustrated and angry.

I can look back at younger versions of myself and have confidence that I would not have been able to calmly and rationally respond to my wife’s therapist and her sensing that I was angry. Younger versions of me would have escalated my emotional state over the frustration of not being heard. There are tens of millions of younger versions of “me” in America, many of who do find themselves caught in the “why are you angry?” trap.

Thank you for reading, and thank you for the compliment.