My husband is a 100% genetically Ashkenazi Jew who came over from the USSR when it fell and he is…
Amanda Vidri

Hi Amanda,

Thank you for taking the time to comment.

I think what you’re saying raises a lot of interesting points.

Your husband (and his family), coming from the USSR, they were banned by a totalitarian government from practicing their religion. I’m not surprised that lots of jewish immigrants coming from post-USSR would bear the pain to get circumcised, because it would feel very important to them to exercise their freedom to do that. Because, to them, their foreskins would have been a symbol of repression.

Also, I think it’s reasonable to assume that if religious practices had been allowed in the USSR, then your husband would be circumcised. Just like how everyone in my family is here and how everyone in my family who came from Russia (pre-USSR) was also circumcised.

Hopefully you’d still love him either way.

Lucky for him, he prefers his penis how it is. And even luckier for him, you do too. So, in a strange twist of fate, his intact penis becomes a fortuitous upside to religious repression. On the other hand, had his family practiced their religion, then there’s a reasonable chance they would be dead. And then he wouldn’t be around to represent either side of the story. So, indeed, he is lucky on a number of levels.

The fact that you like it and he likes it — that’s great. But the whole “liking it” or seeing it as looking “more natural” is completely subjective. I grew up never seeing an uncircumcised penis. My wife as well. So for us, foreskins look unnatural. Which I know is ass-backwards. But there’s no amount of reeducation that’s gonna change that in me. So, as much as some people like one thing or another, that’s just our respective upbringings and acculturations, and I think one’s aesthetic taste doesn’t factor much into whether or not it’s the right thing to do.

I’ve never thought about all this before. When you start factoring in the history behind all this stuff, everything gets really convoluted…

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