Seven lessons from seven seasons of ‘Gilmore Girls’: season three

I’m going to let you in on a little secret; I never watched Gilmore Girls growing up. Not even one episode. I was more of a One Tree Hill or The OC kind of girl in the early 2000s. When I got older I’d flip the channel to a Gilmore Girls rerun every once in a while, and when it was finally released on Netflix I put it on my queue. But, it wasn’t until October 9, 2015 that I actually started watching it, and let me tell you, I was instantly hooked. So, in celebration of its recently announced reboot, I bring to you the seven lessons I learned while watching the seven seasons of Gilmore Girls.

Lesson number three: not everything will always go according to plan.

This one is a hard one, because, like Rory, I am a big fan of planning. And lists. And things going according to my plans and lists. Remember Rory’s pros and cons list when she was trying to decide which college to go to? That’s basically me.

Season three of Gilmore Girls takes place during Rory’s senior year of high school, so she spends a lot of time planning for college. And while Rory had thought her whole life she would end up at Harvard, something happens along the way, and by the end of the season Rory is all set to go to Yale. Some other key events from the season are: Rory and Dean’s breakup and later her subsequent breakup with Jess (who still sucks), the fire at the Independence Inn, and Paris’ rejection from Harvard. Basically a whole lot of things fall apart this season.

Luckily, with each one of these events, some good comes of it as well. Rory ends up at Yale, which is closer to home, which means she’ll be able to visit her mom more often — Paris does too, but we’ll talk about this more at the end of next season. The inn burning down means that Lorelai and Sookie are finally pushed to buy the Dragonfly Inn. Rory and Dean’s breakup leads to her relationship with Jess, which was not a bright side. However, now that Jess ditched town without even a word to Rory — whoever told me he got better was wrong — I’m sure that lots of much nicer boys are in Rory’s future.

That’s not to say that Rory doesn’t spend a lot of time freaking out this season. It’s hard when things don’t go exactly as planned, especially when you love structure and hate change as much as Rory and I do. The episode where Rory decides on Yale, demonstrates that sometimes you have to let go of these perfect pictures in your head that you’ve built up over the years. Shit happens. Life happens. And when it does you can’t spend all of your time freaking out that all your plans fell apart, because if you do, you might miss the opportunity to make something good come of it.

Now, I’m not saying that I think Rory is going to take everything that happened in her 18th year as an indication that life doesn’t always go according to your plans and suddenly abandon her type A personality. No, lists are awesome, so I totally understand why Rory loves plans and hates change. And I’m glad I have plenty of fictional characters like Rory to relate to when it comes to things like that. But what I do think will happen is that Rory won’t always be so quick to cling to these plans.

It’s a hard lesson that I myself have had to learn. Yes, while lists can be great to remember what you need to get done on a particularly busy day, and yes, plans can help you decide what you would like to do, life isn’t planning. Life has its twists and turns and being able to go with the flow is an important part of living. Because otherwise you’re going to waste your time clinging to the fact that you were supposed to be a “Harvard girl”.

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