Jeff Dickey
Jul 22, 2017 · 1 min read

Because love is alive.

I wrote a very lightly fictionalised account of my own first trauma. Decades ago and far away, it comes into my mind every single day. The pain reminds me of the love that we had, but it is not that love. Pain takes; love gives. Pain anchors you to the past; love gives you hope for a future even as it makes the present hardships bearable. Pain will twist and shatter you in an instant if you let it, even decades on; love gives you strength, helps you believe that you can do anything for love. Love is all that “Paul” wrote in the Christians’ 1 Corinthians 13; pain is a jeremiad. Love lets you go forward, even when all you have left of it is a memory that pain tries to tell you, mockingly, is an empty shell, a dream, a false memory. Do not give in to that pain. Because once you do, it will take a miracle for you to truly feel love again, no matter how many times you try or partners’ lives you unwittingly damage as you twist your own further. Bo would no doubt ask you to remember the love you had together, not to focus on the pain or loss. One day you may give advice like this to another hurting soul; if you, too, find tears streaming down your face so that you can barely type, remember the tears of happiness you shed together.

Peace, life, and love in life. Take care.

    Jeff Dickey

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    Writer. Gentleman Historian. Chief Engineer at a wantrapreneurial Web “startup”.