I feel you, but I treat other men as threats, because they are. Any time I am involved in a confrontation with another man, I must be ready to use violence to prevail. If a dude is being rude in a bar, I’m not going t call him out unless I have a good feeling that I can put him on the ground and he won’t be able to get up. Obviously some men back down before it gets there (I often do myself), but as a general rule, “talk shit get hit.”