Ms Clinton could have taken the descriptive ‘flawed’ and gotten all white woman warrier with it i.e. owned the word. Her ego would not allow it, just as her ego allowed her to use her server instead of the government provided (secure) server.
Yes, we live in a patriarchal society and Ms. Clinton has done better than just absorb the sling and arrows. Just like Margret Thatcher she rose above it. Similar to Thatcher, after a time, people who could have supported and worked for her, chose not to — recall the young women who supported Bernie rather than Ms. Clinton.