How Shame Can Change the Course of Your Life

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We live in a world where most people still subscribe to the belief that shame is a good tool for keeping people in line. Not only is this wrong, but it’s dangerous.

– Brené Brown

In 1991, I was in my sophomore year of college. Even though it was close to 30 years ago, I recall one moment of shame like it was yesterday.

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“You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.”

– Brené Brown

I don’t recall the specifics of that day. I don’t remember what the subject of the day’s class was or what exactly was said. But I remember vividly how the professor spoke to me in front of the class.

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  • Reach out to someone you trust.
  • Tell your story — shame cannot survive when spoken and out in the open.

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Dad, runner, author, a bunch of other labels. I write about life, mental health, running, and some satire occasionally. Starting life over one day at a time.

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