Dad, runner, author, a bunch of other labels. I write about life, mental health, running, and some satire occasionally. Starting life over one day at a time.

By Design, Not by Default

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Life comes with so many difficulties. And even though life began for me 46+ years ago, I was living it like others wanted me to. I was living my life by default. So I’ve decided it’s time to begin my life again.

There are times in life when emptiness is all you know and you get to a point where you wonder if you are still alive. It’s a numbness which is paralyzing and caring about anything is difficult. …


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“You have the life you’re willing to put up with.”

— Gary John Bishop

Right now, I’m happy — but I know that could change at a moment’s notice. That’s life. And I’m prepared for that change if it happens.

But a couple of years ago, I couldn’t say I was close to anything that looked like happiness — even contentment was worlds away. In fact, I would consider myself to have been on the opposite end. I was depressed, anxiety-ridden, drinking too much, full of anger, and an overall complete mess. I was having chest pains due to stress…


And I’m Completely Fine With It

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I used to think I knew what I was doing when it came to life. I had everything figured out. The house, the family, and the stable job. For a while, life was really good. Or so I pretended.

My life is unrecognizable compared to one year ago. It’s completely changed.

That is life. Your life can turn a complete 180° sometimes. It can change in an instant. And when someone says that phrase, many of us believe that change is bad.

But instant change can also be good.


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A while ago, I wrote a post about dreaming your life away. It was written from experience because I did that for many years. I had a life, but it was not the life I wanted.

I worked in a job I hated, drank too much, and was so full of anxiety it led to panic attacks. I was depressed and didn’t realize how bad my depression had become because I was so used to it. I was used to living with being miserable.

Depression and anxiety were normal and comfortable. It was a part of me.

I was tolerating…


And I wonder if they care

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I really didn’t want to write this. I’ve been contemplating whether publishing this story will be detrimental to me, my writing, and my publications, for a while. I’ve read stories about how writers are put into Medium jail for criticizing the platform. But I can’t ignore the problem anymore. I’m tired of having views, reads, and money taken away from me while plagiarizers are running rampant on Medium. I’m sick of having to report people all the time because Medium doesn’t seem to take the problem seriously.

You should be sick of it, too.

Since August, I have found over…


Highlights and stories from February 28-March 6, 2021

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Welcome to the Runner’s Life newsletter!

If you’ve missed previous newsletters, you can find the archive here.

I love all things running including watching movies and documentaries about the sport. I haven’t had cable for a long time, so I watch the common streaming channels like Netflix, Amazon Prime, and mostly YouTube.

I often go down a rabbit hole of running videos and have a few documentaries I’ve watched many times. These are all about ultra-running, but even if you aren’t an ultra-runner, I think you will enjoy them. Here are a few of my favorite running videos on YouTube.


Highlights and stories from February 21-February 27, 2021

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Welcome to the Runner’s Life newsletter!

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A little over a year ago on February 23, 2020 (2/23), 25-year-old Ahmaud Arbery was shot and killed while running. In his honor, the 2.23 Foundation was created to help address the systemic injustices so often seen with people of color. The vision of the 2.23 Foundation is, “To see a society that pursues fair, just, and impartial treatment of black and brown persons and to create space for them to be civically engaged and positioned as future public servants.”

Since Ahmaud never…


Highlights and stories from February 14-February 20, 2021

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Welcome to the Runner’s Life newsletter!

If you’ve missed previous newsletters, you can find the archive here.

The COVID-19 pandemic has changed many lives, and unfortunately, most not for the better. However, one good thing that’s emerged from the crisis is the number of people who have begun to exercise more.

According to a survey conducted by runrepeat.com, “People who normally exercise up to 1–2 times/week have increased exercising by 88% on average.” Also, “People who normally exercise up to 3 times/week have increased exercising by 38% on average.”

Regarding running, those who normally exercised once or twice a week…


Highlights and stories from February 7-February 13, 2021

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Welcome to the Runner’s Life newsletter!

If you’ve missed previous newsletters, you can find the archive here.

One of the most iconic races is the Boston Marathon. Normally held in April, they postponed the 2020 race until September. Unfortunately, with the COVID-19 pandemic still raging, they canceled the September date and the 2020 Boston Marathon. They also postponed the 2021 race because of the same reason.

However, on January 26, the Boston Athletic Association (B.A.A.)


On searching for something that’s already there

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“There’s a trick to the ‘graceful exit.’ It begins with the vision to recognize when a job, a life stage, or a relationship is over — and let it go. It means leaving what’s over without denying its validity or its past importance to our lives. It involves a sense of future, a belief that every exit line is an entry, that we are moving up, rather than out.”

― Ellen Goodman

Relationships are one of the most rewarding experiences we can have as humans. Yet, they can also be one of the most painful when that relationship ends. Especially…

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