The Art of No: Using the Negative to Create the Positive
Carving your own path in the corporate world is no easy feat. It takes hard work, dedication, long hours spent in the office, and often a few instances of failure. After a while, it can feel like you are never going to reach your goals.
Unfortunately, many people stop here, allowing the negativity to distract them from why they started in the first place.
Jeff Yapp, Founder and CEO of Wutznxt, has a different approach to handling the stress and negativity that often encompasses the corporate world: use your “no’s” as motivation.
Of course, this is easier said than done. But with someone who has had a 30+ year long career with major moments of success, adopting this mindset is definitely worth a shot.
Below Jeff Yapp lists 4 tips to help you embrace the art of no and push yourself to achieve your dreams.
1. Acknowledge Negativity in Yourself and Rise Above It
A lot of people fall victim to negativity, letting it cloud their judgement and drive their actions. After a while, this often turns into fits of rage that end up ruining personal and professional relationships.
The trick is to master emotional intelligence. Acknowledge when you are being negative and allow yourself to feel this way. It’s ok to be sad, disappointed, and frustrated. But also acknowledge that there is no need to spread this emotion to others. At the end of the day, making others feel bad and embarrassing yourself will benefit no one.
Picture this: You’ve attended ten job interviews in the last two weeks, with no bites. You’re unemployed with a dwindling bank account, left doing nothing all day except for applying to jobs you are clearly overqualified for. Instead of sitting at home, eating junk food and feeling bad for yourself, be productive with this free time. Sign up to be a freelancer on Upwork, complete a free Hubspot certification, learn Google Analytics — anything to show future employers that you are constantly learning, no matter your situation.
Rising above this negativity will boost your confidence and help you bounce back quicker.
2. Acknowledge Negativity In Others
Just when you start mastering the control of your own emotions, you start to realize you cannot control the emotions of others. “Often negativity in an office environment is coming from people who are stressed, overworked, and overwhelmed. Don’t take this personally.” advises Jeff Yapp. Instead, use this as an opportunity to work harder to prove your worth and showcase your abilities. It’s always better to be the individual known for their calm temper and strong work ethic, than someone who is constantly vocalizing their dissatisfaction.
3. Turn Failure Into Fuel
Strange as it may seem, we are engineered for failure. The road to success is not one of clear skies and calm seas, otherwise everyone would be successful (and success wouldn’t taste so sweet!). Jeff Yapp emphasizes the fact that in the span of his 30+ year career, not once did he come across a person that had not gone through blood, sweat and tears to get where they are.
It’s easy to see the value of failure when you have already overcome it. Unfortunately, for those currently experiencing failure or hardship in their professional life, it is extremely difficult to see a way out, and thus failure quickly becomes a breeding ground for negativity.
Yet you have probably known this all along. So why can’t you succeed on your second, third or umpteenth try and just do what successful people prophesize they did? — Quality over quantity. No matter how many times you try, you have to see the error in your ways. Learn from your failure; try something different, take a risk, or join forces with someone with a skillset that complements yours.
4. The Big “If”
What if I am not good enough? What if I fail? What if I miss out on..?
These are the questions that will devour your conscience and prevent you from being successful. Snap out of it! You have to live in the moment.
The fear of failure is tightly connected to this negative thinking. And if there’s one thing you’ve learned from this blog, failure is the next step to your success. In a way, you are condoning and prolonging your lack of success with your inaction. Just stay true to yourself, never question your rationale and do what you set out to do. If you do not succeed at first, it means you have already grown and become the successful person of tomorrow.