Why “Finding Your Passion” is a Waste of Time
Sorry to be a downer, but I’m just going to say it: if you’re still trying to “find our passion”, it’s time you know that it will never happen for us.
Yes, millions of us go to surprising sacrificial extremes with this noble goal in mind, but the truth is it’s unlikely we’ll receive our calling after years of waiting for it to find us. We won’t finally discover what we were put on Earth to do, embrace it with everything we have, and forget what life was like before we had our blessed epiphany. (“Finally! My patience has paid off! It has come to me! I will be forever fulfilled!”)
To be fair, we all know a rare few folks who do seem lucky enough to have had this happen to them. They discover a new hobby and realize they actually want to build their life around it. They’ve had a decades-long itch to pursue a different career path, and when they finally take the risk, it was the best thing they ever did. These people do exist, but they are the exception.
And it’s not luck.
It’s because they’re not doing what the rest of us are doing: viewing passion as one single monumental thing that’s as elusive as a needle in a haystack.
By viewing fulfillment as something that’s out of our grasp, holding us back from living a full life until we’re blessed enough to meet it, we’re giving ourselves some spectacular excuses to be stagnant.
“I can’t possibly live a full and rewarding life if the cruel universe is still withholding my passion, right?”
“Isn’t it an indulgent waste of time to emotionally and financially invest in self-improvement if I don’t know what area I’m meant to be focusing on?”
“Why risk showing my soul to the universe, putting my ego on the line, or making mistakes or missteps (God forbid!), if my passion hasn’t come to me yet?”
I was guilty of embracing these types of excuses for over a decade (slow learner here!). Then I realized that adapting a new mindset could set me free immediately vs. waiting around for my be-all, end-all passion to surface.
My epiphany was deciding to live passionately.
Living passionately means we approach every day with curiosity, enthusiasm, humor, inquisitiveness, sensitivity and rigor. These are all things that likely went by the wayside when we were busy being all serious, searching for our passion.
Living passionately means we seek out countless little things every single day that add color to our life — instead of looking for one “answer”.
Living passionately means we start to notice and ponder tons of little yet important things all around us — instead of wishing something monumental would surface. Our sense of humor and ability to relate to others develops more fully — because we’re more aware and appreciative of everyday nuances.
Living passionately means having the discipline and nerve to approach every single day begging for stimulation — instead of living a potentially passive existence for decades while patiently waiting for something to hit us and give us permission to embrace life. (You might be waiting a long time!)
The best thing about giving up our bad habit of begging the universe for a sign, and instead embracing every day with double fist pumps? If we can find the nerve to do it (the hard part!), we can start right now — right this minute. And you know what might happen when we do? We might just find our passion…