Why Confrontation is Kind and When to Make it Happen

Jenn Whitmer
Nov 7 · 5 min read

Many of us — especially women — have learned some limiting beliefs about confrontation. The lie is that confrontation is mean, aggressive, and not nice. That lie has turned into quite the monster in our culture, preventing progress in workplaces and communities.

Sharon Hodde Miller, in her book Nice, records Dr. Christina Edmonson saying, “We are wooed by superficial niceness.” Aren’t we? We want to be the nice boss or the nice co-worker. The desire to get along is good; it’s the superficial niceness that limits our growth and hurts our…

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Jenn Whitmer

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Jenn speaks, writes, and coaches about conflict, growth, and leadership. She’s usually laughing too loudly. Come visit at jennwhitmer.com.

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