Reclaim Your Shine as a Highly Sensitive Person
Learning to Hide
I learned to suppress my sensitive nature very early in life. As a result, I built up an armor.
If I wasn’t wearing my armor, I learned to be funny. I was the sarcastic friend who cracked jokes to avoid saying what I was really feeling.
I’ve paid dearly by suppressing my sensitivity. The armor I built up around me has made it difficult to be vulnerable and give people the chance to really know me.
Even without an armor, living authentically is not easy. Many of us wear masks for most of our lives. Vulnerability is hard for everyone, but for highly sensitive people who feel deeply, not allowing our emotions to bubble up to the surface is detrimental to our health.
Over the years, we start to dull. We lose our shine. Our mojo gets lost.
When I was a young girl, I remember pretending to have beams of light shining through my fingertips. I would hold my hands up in the air and swing them around while envisioning lights streaming across the air. Think of a lightsaber or playing with sparklers on the 4th of July.
Years later, while participating in a Reiki energy healing training, I learned that energy radiates out from us and this energy is our life force. It is what makes us come alive.
I think I must have known this as a child, but as we grow older, we stop believing in magic.
When we dilute who we are as sensitives, this life energy ebbs and our vibration lowers. When we open our hearts and embrace the strengths that come with being highly sensitive, we start to live in the flow again and our vibration rises in kind.
When you are born into a society that doesn’t value your strengths, it’s easy to lose your shine. When we repeatedly find ourselves in situations where we feel inadequate we may begin to believe we are broken when in reality, we are trying to fit into a society that hasn’t evolved to include us. As Einstein said, “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and forgotten the gift.”
Believe in your gift.
When we start to accept our sensitivity and embrace who we are, we gain confidence. We begin to feel competent in all facets of life whether that be as a parent, a coworker, or a friend. This allows us to let go of that desire to fit in and just be who we are. Things become easier. We enter our flow.
And we begin to be the change we want to see in the world.
Find Your Shine
If you feel like you’ve lost your shine, there are ways to get it back. I’ve outlined 8 that have helped me reclaim my sensitive strengths and move in the direction of my authentic path.
- Change Your Mindset: Believe you are enough. Rediscovering your shine begins with believing you are good and whole just as you are. Sensitive people have existed throughout history and have been instrumental in the evolution of society. We have been the healers, the helpers, the protectors, and counselors. We have a purpose in this world, and it is up to us to quiet our minds and discover what that may be. For me, it was to leave a career in public relations to pursue a career as a coach and counselor. Your path will look different than mine, but it is vital that you find it so that the world can start to benefit from your unique gifts.
- Meditate: By the time most of us wake up to our high sensitivity, we are already on overdrive. Our brains are overstimulated, our adrenals are fatigued, and we are emotionally, spiritually, and physically spent. One way to center yourself and start to tap into your intuition is to meditate. Meditation is a simple tool anyone can use to start to quiet the chatter, heal your mind, and find that inner voice buried over the years and allow it to guide you along your self-love journey.
- Energy Work: Meditation can heal the mind, but energy work helps to heal the body. An important first step in my personal journey to healing and acceptance was receiving Reiki energy treatment. Reiki helped me release traumas I was carrying around in my body so that I could begin to live with less limitation and fear. There are many paths to healing our energy including acupuncture, chakra balancing, EFT, Qigong, and Yoga. The key is to find what works for you.
- Move: Go hiking. Practice Yoga. Find a Zumba class. Take up belly dancing. Dust off your gym membership and start pumping iron. Just move. What you do doesn’t matter as much as that you enjoy it. Reconnecting with our bodies is important for empaths. We tend to live in our heads, so reestablishing that mind body connection is vital as you begin to peel back the layers and rediscover your authentic voice.
- Do You: We all have an innate human desire to fit in. Everyone wants to sit with the popular kids. Yet, as highly sensitive people, we’ve spent most of our lives trying to fit our round selves into square pegs. This yearning to fit in has been a distraction to our divine path of self-love and acceptance. When you stop trying to be someone you’re not, you will rest into your being and the world will respond positively to your peace. To regain your shine, stop people pleasing and just do you.
- Take a Social Media Break: I love social media as much as the next person. But, it’s so easy to start comparing yourself to all your friends. They have better jobs, nicer vehicles, perfect children, and more interesting hobbies than you do. I recently took a yearlong Facebook sabbatical and read and finished more books than I had in five years. I also felt better about my life. So instead of getting lost in the Facebook vortex, volunteer in your community, read some good books, have a conversation with your spouse or play with your children. You’ll feel better for it.
- Change Your Environment: This isn’t always the easiest change to make, but it might be necessary in order to really get back to that place of child-like joy. If you find yourself in a toxic job where your gifts will never be appreciated, hand in your notice. If you are in a relationship with an unsupportive partner, leave. If you have chosen a career that doesn’t suit your innate biological nature, it’s time to reevaluate and find a new career path. Taking this kind of big leap might seem scary at first, but once you do, you will not regret it.
- Find A Mentor: Last but certainly not least, find a mentor. Preferably, this person is another highly sensitive person who can relate to your journey. Your mentor can also be a tribe. One thing that helped me come to understand my sensitivity was joining social media groups where I was able to meet others with the hsp trait. A few years later, when I made the decision to launch my online coaching business, I was able to benefit from the work with a business coach who also happened to be highly sensitive. Having her hold space for me during such an emotional transition in my life was invaluable, and a key step in finally reclaiming my power and allowing myself to shine.
It’s important as you start to put these recommendations into practice that you believe your ability to shine hasn’t disappeared. You have the power to reclaim a different way of being. And when you begin shining again, you will manifest a more peaceful and joyful life. In so doing, you will be a light in a world that so desperately needs you to claim your power and shine.
Ready to reclaim your shine? Visit my website to learn about my mentorship program designed with you in mind. If you are a highly sensitive woman, I can be your guide as you learn to use your hsp strengths to your advantage. Whatever your goals and dreams may be, I can help you get there.
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