There is an interesting tension around discussion of how patriarchal society causes men to suppress their emotions. Men must be rigidly strong, stoic, in control — which is the opposite of being vulnerable — lest they be shamed and dismissed as a cuck, a sissy, a whiner. If they are bitter and resentful at their collective treatment it is not due to true victimisation or oppression, it is indicative of unchecked privilege and entitlement, or a result of being too feminine, not man enough to take it on the chin.