As a trans woman who transitioned 12 years ago at the age of 54, I’m still working on / trying to understand / coming to terms with the scope and meaning of my own femininity. Three of your points in particular were helpful to me: accepting, sitting with, and conversing with pain; the distinction between vulnerability and weakness/submission; and the importance of seeing one’s own femininity for what it is, on its terms, not those of any outside influence. I often tell people that transition is a process, not an event. Like a sculptor, I can see my femininity inside the stone that surrounds it; and like a sculptor, my process is to chip away everything that’s not my femininity, that’s hiding it, until it stands free and beautiful on its own. Thank you for the sculpture lessons.