Jen Silverman

…te control over my life, and thus in a very real way keeping me in a state of arrested development. Maturity is not something that happens automatically as you get older: it happens by progressively taking on responsibilities and assuming risks, in the process of which you learn things about yourself and the world — which is the same as saying that you become a different person. Systems that keep you running in place, even if they suck, have an oddly soporific effect: you deve…